I’ve always been the type of person who always thinks about other people before myself. When my ex and I broke up I told him that I would always be there for him whenever he needed me because I thought that was the right thing to do. I really do care about him and I don’t like to hear him suffer, but now I’m thinking that’s a bad idea. I feel like he’s only going to talk to me so he can use me to feel better about himself again. He called me crying the other night and I gave in and called him back, but all he called me for was because his new “relationship” just took a turn in the opposite direction. He confessed this had happened before and he’s scared it’s happening again. He said he trusts me to tell him the truth and that everything will be okay, but he was still texting her while he was talking to me. I don’t want to be used anymore, but I also don’t want to break my promise about always being there for him. I don’t want him to think I’m abandoning him because I know he’s felt that way about me before, but I don’t want him to treat me like a doormat.
He changed his mind and said he wants to stay friends with me, but I know that’s not going to work because that’s what he did with two of his past girlfriends and he ended up sexting them while we were together and also the girl he’s with now.
I am so confused. I’m really trying to focus on bettering myself right now and trying to make it at least 30 days without talking to him, but uuugggh I can’t help being the kind and generous person I have always been. And I’m really tired of people telling me I deserve better; I don’t like thinking that he’s lower than me or anybody else. This is more of a venting post than an advice post. Thanks for reading!
I would appreicate any persepctive!