thats a good start then…you know sissy @meme your lucky your x stilnng single but my ex having someone but i didn’t see yet the girl on his fb or his in relationship, i was waiting for that so i can convnced myself that he have a gf… oh he nver contact me for 2 days now…strange bec. he nver do than only for 1 day so iwas thinknig there is someone who captured hiss interest and really forget me…
you just act normal back to start the time you and him are not together …try to be civil dn’t flirt him and wait for him to open his feelings and confess it…
Just relax @whena … if she exist she is a rebound … he clearly loves you alot … and it will be hard for him to move on … he won’t forget you … just stay strong …
And I’ll do my best not to screw up this time
P.S: I looked up your topic but I did not find any update so I replied here
Another update :
So my ex talked to me today … he said that he wasn’t comfortable talking to me yesterday ( he’s a lair … he was smiling all the time and he looked happy … I know him enough to say that) … and that he want me out of his life … and I was completely shocked … I asked “why? …did I did anything wrong?” … he said “no … but I’m not comfortable to talk to you again … and I don’t want you in my life at all … not even as friends !!!”
So I said … “ok … i can see … you are still hurt and all” … he said "not just that … it’s more comfortable to me not to talk to you anymore … "
and that he’ll give him self time to think about being friends again but he’s not comfortable and that’s what it matters to him … so I said “ok … I see … it’s normal to feel like this now … you need time to feel normal around me again”
so I asked him not to block me again … so I can prove to him that I’ll change and that I’m not going to be needy again …and I’m not gonna talk to him unless he talks to me … and I’m taking this seriously … he said ok …
and then I sent one of RR messages
(So i’ve been doing a lot of thinking about what you said, and you’re right, things haven’t been the same between us. We both feel it and i’m actually grateful you were honest enough to bring it up. I think I had known that we were growing apart for a while, but part of me didn’t want to admit it because I was trying to hold onto the idea of all the good times we did have together. And that’s when I realized that we really do have an awesome time just hanging out. But we overcomplicated something great by adding a relationship . That’s why I think it’s a much better idea for us to Must be friends, don’t you agree?)
so … we are back to NC …
What do you think?
Do I have hope?
not all hope is gone you still have a chance thing being is that you need to stay no contact for at least a month to 2 months let him miss you he seems like hes sending you mix messages. give him time and space no more talking texting emails nothing. dont stalk him either. stay strong you got this.
I don’t want to sound childish … but … what he said make me happy … especially when he said that he misses me and thinks about me and stalking me on fb and I’m getting prettier …etc
am I crazy to think that he still have feelings for me?
I mean … he sounded hurt I know … and now I understand that he really needs time of his own …
but I felt like he still have feelings for me … and that’s why he needed to block me again … he’s hurt by the person he loved …
Am I crazy to think like this?
I mean … I’m giving myself too much hope … right?
And I’m still afraid that he’ll block me after a while …
I’ll will do 30 days of NC … i swear I’ll this time … lol …(unless he contacts me )
But I wanna know what you think… does he have feelings for me?
or he’s just nice to me?
Why would he change his profile picture when I said I didn’t like it ?
And all of the things he said … was he laying to me about all of it?
he may be being nice but to me it sounds like hes hurt and needs his space, dont push him away more give him his space and do you. im sorry im out of it these days, and am really sad and depress to answer better and clearer. but yes I think it sounds like he still has feelings for you. you can do this stay strong.
@aamls … I know you are hurt …
I hope everything will get better soon and you’ll get him soon … and he’ll see what’s he’s messing …
You are strong and you will survive
As you said "stay strong … you can do this "
thanks mema your so sweet, I really hope you get your ex back. I really miss hi so much, I hope your right, but it doesnt seem this way. I feel like im going crazy. I keep trying to come up with ideas on how I can get him back. :‘( everyone s just telling me to let him go. :’( thanks mema
Like people have said, he probaby acts that way to protect himself. One thing I’ve thought of is that people gets really immature by love, they’ll become stubborn, childish and simply weird. So just ride it out and try not to worry to much of his actions, the weirder he is the more he’s struggling without you
@maloto970 … thanx for your reply … but what do you think about what he said to me yesterday? … about missing me and changing the profile pic because I didn’t like it … and etc ?
Does this mean any thing?
And why did he say that he wants me out if his life and that he wasn’t comfortable talking to me? (I re read our conversation after the Skype talk … he said he was happy … and that he felt better then )
I’m so confused
I want him bad … and I don’t know if there is any chance …
What do you think?
● Update:
So now … as he unblocked me … I can see … he’s online almost all the time …
and he stayed up late till 5am yesterday
He rarely did this with me … he used to wake up early … even if I stayed up late… I stay up alone …
He used to stay late with me at the beginning of our relationship … before admiting that wevlove each other
I’m afraid he’s talking to another girl … and that’s why he want me out of his life
So I don’t effect his relationship with her …
What do you think?
it’s a month since our break up … and if there is a girl she’s not a rebound
It could be, but you don’t know that for sure. Stay strong. Take care of yourself. It will all be okay in the end, if it isn’t okay, then it isn’t the end. I heard that once.
Don’t think about it too much because it will make you want to contact him.
mema stay strong you can do this, when you feel like that think that others have it worse. im in so much pain that I cant bare with it anymore, I keep hearing take it easy, calm down, move on, let it go, ect ect ect, but how? from “thinking” about it to “really” wanting to kick me out of his life for good. do I deserve this no but its happening to me. sorry I may not even be the best person to be giving advise as look where im at and feel atm. this is the worse I’ve gone through yet and idk how im still standing he left me 2 weeks after my dad passed away and was already talking to females that bitch cousin of mine being one of them. anyways I think you should continue to work on yourself and dont contact him until he contacts you so you dont look needy or clingy. stay strong you can do this.
Thanx sunshine and aamls …
I’m really afraid … I want him back … and I’m jealous type girl … I’d go crazy if he’s talking to someone else … I love him so much … how can he forget about us and go talking to other girls?
I love him and I want him to only mine
He loves you too! If he talks to someone else it’s just for trying to move on! But you two has been together for a long time and do you really think he can just find someone like that and forget about you? Don’t be silly I’d say that you’ll get him back even faster if he starts dating, because he will really fast realize how stupid it was to start dating and he will be the one coming back to you. Just let some time go, you know best for how long. If you’ve never been apart for more than a week, a month will do wonders And then take contact in the appropriate way, no begging or emotions, just a happy, caring and charming you! Continue being friends and meet up eventually, you’ll fall in love again and your bond will be so much stronger than it was last time. During this break, do something you enjoy! Do you have any hobbies?
Thanx @Maloto970 … you really think that he loves me?
I want to believe this … but I’m scared … I mean … he said many nice things … he acted nice to me after being so mean … hes finally texting me back … after ignoring me … but still … he wants me out of his life?
Why would he act like this?
Sending me mixed signals …
deep down … I feel like he’s still in love with me … he’s just so hurt … and he thinks I’ll never change … he’s trying to push me away so he can forget about me … and because he knows that if we talked again … he’ll fall in love with me …
I mean … when we talked … at first he acted mean … but then he was nice … he was happy and I guess he felt nostalgic …
that’s why he said that he didn’t want to talk to me anymore …
but still … I don’t think I’m thinking straight … I feel like I have a blur on my eyes … and that I only see what my hearts want to see … and I’m fooling myself …
What do you think?
oh @Maloto970 thats a good advise i can relate to @mema my dear i feel you but as long u cn show to him being needy he cn use his ego and pride pushing u away…my ex remember dating someone else he didn’t send me any msg 4days for now… but even i miss him i still keep quiet yea im hurt,crying but never try to send him message and in my mind i was wishing hope he realized that he still need me,he still want me…i want him to be back to me so wht ever are problem is we cn solve it in his own way
I know that you it is very easy to think that you can show him you have changed by talking to him, but it really does help to take a break from talking to him. My ex before this current ex that I want to get back had a very similar situation to this one. And he would always tell me that he wanted me the most when he wanted to talk, but I was able to say no or was busy or whatever and didn’t talk to him. It does help create more attraction.
I agree that you should not contact him. Time passes. He may move on but as long as you keep on loving him and keep working on yourself, you won’t lose him. One day, you’ll see him again and he’ll see you. Or you’ll text him to find out how he’s doing… And you can genuinely respond that you’re doing very well. It will change his opinion of you and open up the opportunity for a new beginning. You must both move on and be happy without each other so that you can be even happier when you meet up and have the opportunity to start again. Then, the double happiness will make him want to stay with you forever. But you must always work on yourself! And encourage the same in him!
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… was he laying to me about all of it? 
I’d say that you’ll get him back even faster if he starts dating, because he will really fast realize how stupid it was to start dating and he will be the one coming back to you. Just let some time go, you know best for how long. If you’ve never been apart for more than a week, a month will do wonders