Yes you should try and stick to the 30day NC rule and see where it goes from there. you haven’t had enough space from your ex just yet.
But have you noticed that what you’re doing is not working? You need to come from a place of confidence and self love, not desperation. Imagine if the shoe was on the other foot, and he was the one constantly calling and trying to contact you when you wanted space. Wouldn’t that annoy you?
@whena … he used to love me that much … but now he doesn’t … he said to a friend that we broke up a year ago … not now … and I think he’s going over me 
So it doesn’t matter what I say anymore 
I’m doing NC now … I’m in day 3 … "I broke the NC after 16 days "
And you should do your best … being in a long distance relationship is something you cam work on until you find a way to get together … stay strong
@JCsquared … I know … but I did a deadly mistake 3 days ago … I texted him alot … and he did not reply …
I know we both need time … but it never took us this long to get back together "we broke up 7 times before in the last year and we always get back after 2 weeks max " … so I thought by the second week of NC he’ll be able to get back together … but he just didn’t answer me … and when I called him from a different number he said “get the hell out of my life” and hang up on me:(
Why is he doing so? … he’s acting really good … never mentioned me to any of our mutual friends or even to his best friend … and actually he’s having a great time …
@tristanJade … actually no … I’ll be happy … I would definitely act hard to get
… but still I won’t act this way with him … it’s mean and I shows me that he doesn’t care anymore … and that he really wants me out of his life for ever
i bet he cares. its hard not to in a situation like this. like the rest have said, youre pushing him a way. and i did the same. my ex just blocked my phone number (apparently) and she told me she loved me before she did it?
Why do you think you need this guy?
@otherone … I hope he does … I’m very afraid that I lost him forever
The worst part is … I know he is online alot “my friends told me that”… on social media and IM etc … and he hates talking on Internet … he was like this when he had a crush on me … He used to be 24/7 …
and this is making me really afraid
It has been 3 weeks since the break up … and a week after this happened … and still no contact from him
And I’m still blocked
@tristanJade … I don’t need him … I love him very much
We used to be the perfect couple for 2 years …
I know that last year was a total mess … but I really want him back …
@otherone … @tristanJade
Kevin said in he’s emails … that there are 4 stages of time healing …
Breakup Pain Healing >>>> Bad Memories Healing >>>> Missing You Badly >>>> Moving On
At what stage you think he’s now? …
According to his acts and reactions?
My friends think he’s moving on …
What do you think?
I asked because that’s what you said earlier.
@mema how are you doing? would you mind giving me your input? thanks
Hey @aamls … actually an awkward thing happened today …
so … it has been a while since I talked to my ex’s best friend …
But a few days earlier …he wad checking on me and i told him I have a date … so he said “way to go girl” … and acted happy “he’s supporting me on the NC thing … and he thinks I should stick to the 5 steps plan … and he’s actually being supportive … like any other friend of mine … not as my ex’s bff " … and he spent 2 days with my ex lately … so we didn’t talk at all … " I assumed that they talked about me and my relationship with my ex”
So … today he asked about my date … I told him it was actually boring “it was” …
I told him about some other male friends of mine who are trying to go on a date with me …
so … we were laughing and joking and talking normal… and I told him : “your friend is very lucky to have me " he said “he is” … I said " IDK why he’s acting like this … and he’s overweening himself :-p … and I’m the one he should be thankful to have "
Anyways … as I told him so … he suddenly told me that my ex has arrived to his home “he didn’t told me he was coming” …
and he should go …
i said : " ok … hate you both " … and he replied " but we both love you " … I told him : " you do but your friend doesn’t” … he said : “ok” … and went offline …
What do you think?
Does this mean anything?
your doing great and im pretty sure your ex already knows about you going on dates and other guys wanting to date you. so maybe that will get him jealous and thinking, fingers crossed, lol. your doing so good for yourself you should feel proud. about the message idk what to think, was it the friend or him that said “we love you”? I really dont think it was meant to mean anything but something friendly. if he sees you being happy it will attract him to you. he should already know everything your up to via your friend lol, so just keep doing you and give him time and space. your doing great.
Im so sorry you have to go through with this, its very difficult I know after being with my ex for almost 17 months I can truly understand how your feeling. Someone you truly love breaks up with you is certainly not an easy one, take it from me, I was a complete mess I couldn’t stop crying. But thankfully for me things seem to be getting better with me and my ex so far like I mentioned in my post. But the bottom line is that you need to not contact him, don’t keep messaging him, it will only drive him away further and he’s gonna think your desperate so do yourself a favor by doing NC for awhile and see how it goes. Most importantly, keep yourself busy and recreate yourself for the better.
Actually I hope he does know … I want him to be jealous …
and about the message … yes it was the friend … but I thought that my ex is maybe reading the conversation … and this is why …
the last time my ex and I got back together … we were friends … and we were talking … so I told him … i hate you … and he said … but I love you … so … for like a week or two he kept saying that he loves me … until I said it back …
so idk if it means anything …
I’m actually confused … today I was talking to this friend … (I know he’s acting like a friend of mine … but I also know that he didn’t want me to get together again with my ex)
So … I told him that I miss my ex … and he told me that I should move on … and my ex doesn’t love me anymore … and I should forget him and move on because life is too short
Idk why he’s being so harsh on me like this… and if he just assuming that my ex moved on … or he knows smth … he told me that he didn’t talk to my ex about us yet … and that my ex never mentioned me … but I know my ex hides his feelings from his friends especially when he’s sad from our relationship
IDK what to do anymore …
do you think this friend knows smth?
Or he is just assuming?
I’m losing hope here
@krista27 … I’m doing the NC … it has been 3 weeks now … I broke it a week ago … so I’m starting it again …
I’m doing my best on keeping myself busy … but do you really think we have hope?
maybe it does mean something, you never know. why doesnt his friend want you together its none of their business, lol yes I think your ex knows everything that is going on. dont lose hope you still have a chance. keep your head up and keep doing what your doing.
I’m doing my best … but this friend is really making me lose hope … he told me that : ( i can be with you when you try to forget about your ex … but I don’t want to in the middle … and I won’t talk to him for you ) … he wants me to move on … and he says my ex did !
So …
But IDK if he tells my ex every thing ( he used to tell him every thing when my ex and I were together )… or he’s being a jerk and doesn’t want me to get back with my ex …
Or if he’s telling me this because he really cares and want me to forget my ex …
I’m lost
And I feel like this friend knows smth … and he’s hiding it from me
Idk what to do anymore … i checked the list on the 5 steps plan… but I feel like it’s a lost case …
if you feel like hes hiding something the he probably is. why would he say he will be with you if you forget him? also I understand he doesnt want to be caught in the middle. you dont know if he moved on already just because this “friend” says so. I think you still have a chance and shouldnt listen to this “friend”. I think you should stop talking to this friend actually. 2 years is a long time to develop feelings for a person so he still must feel something for you unless it was fake and I highly dount that. keep doing you.