I started talking to this guy back in March. We were long distance at the time (about 2 hours) and so primarily got to know each other by phone (text mostly). We spoke every single day and met up 2 times between March and May. He was really into me and told me he liked me and it was great. I was a little confused and scared though. A week after the second date, I asked to take a small break. We were talking on a daily basis and I felt confused so I just needed at least a day of not talking to get my head straight. He was really understanding about it and so we didn’t speak for a week. I then contacted him again because I missed him and realized that my confusion was really just my fear of falling for him too fast. We began talking again almost daily but this time I was texting him all the time (before, he would text me daily and say the sweetest things). I started texting him daily after the short break because I felt bad for initiating the break to begin with and I guess I was trying to compensate for that. He became sort of moody at that point. Some days he would be okay and others he would seem uninterested. He began taking a long time to respond and would just stop responding altogether on some days. Then in June, I was in his area for other reasons (visiting my grad school which I am staring soon) and so we had our 3rd date. It didn’t go well… He seemed distant and uncomfortable and I know I was frustrated with his weird behavior for the past month so I was quiet too and he could probably feel that I was annoyed with him. It just didn’t go well. 2 days later, he said he didn’t want to pursue this anymore because we didn’t click on that last date. I told him how I felt and that I was upset that day because of how distant he had been. We argued a bit and that was it. I was heart broken. I cried and cried. I texted him a couple days later and apologized for anything and everything I could think of. No response.
I was in the middle of packing and moving to a new city for grad school so I forcd myself to be pre-occupied with that process until I moved in July. So I didn’t speak to him for a month. The city I moved to is much closer to him and we could have had a more normal relationship now if we were still together. So at the end of July (about 2 weeks ago) I texted him and asked him if we could start over. He said a part of him wanted to say yes but the other part had other things on his mind. He felt it wasn’t a good idea. We went back and forth a little and he asked me what I thought. I said I thought it was worth another try. He said said things were hit or miss between us and that he had too much going in his life at the moment. I said ok and haven’t spoken to him again since then.
I miss him terribly and can’t stop thinking about him. I feel like he’s passing up a good opportunity for us to finally get to know each other better now without the distance. What do I do now? How do I get him back?? It’s been a week and half since I asked him to start over. What do I do now?