It’s been a while. I still miss him and part of me wants to overlook the fundamental differences we had in our thinking about finances, communication etc. But that’s not a good train of thought.
So… after 2m I messaged him letting him know he got some paperwork by post and official docs and that I can mail them or he can pick them up (he still got keys at that point…). He answered about picking up his stuff as well and went into great detail about how he’s organising transport. I don’t care which friend of yours I don’t know will lend his car etc.!
I specifically asked him to let me know in advance when he’s coming. He gave a vague response then didn’t address my question and for 3 days he messaged from my appartment only asking for where stuff was. I had sent him a list with all the places the boxes I’d packed were.
I found it rude that he didn’t even send a text ‘I’m coming today after work so 6ish’ or smg.
He was also looking for specific stuff, I repeated where that might be, and then he left the whole bag containing it there. It was on the list (think ‘blue trash bag above the shoe rack’) so I have to assume he has changed his mind and I can throw that away.
I have a friend staying with me (his suitcases made his presence obvious - overseas guest) and my ex made a patronizing/bitter comment about him not taking care of smg in the appartment which was clearly a mistake made by my guest . But it was a thing that happens when you are staying at someone’s and definitely not my ex’s business. I think he was hurt by seeing that my appartment looks cleaner and nicer than ever and I already had a guest staying. This doesn’t at all mean that I don’t care or not hurt or anything but he chose to react in such a hurtful way.
I might still post when something happens.