I’m 42 male UK
she is 22 female
been together 3.5 years and engaged
this happened Sunday 13th
the no contact thing is killing me but I will do anything for this girl
the break up right out the blue I thought we was perfect passionate sex like within the week breaking up.
telling me she loves me all time how she looks at me and even telling my mother how much she loved me.
I have been having bit issues I’m not interested in much last 6 months I explained this to her but I’m a guy who hides.
I went away with mates and shouldn’t left her at home.
she is 22 I never saw an age gap we laughed and jk all the time spark all the time.
all way up to Sunday after noon.
we were chatting telling me miss me and lives me.
then out the blue at 10pm got this txt
Jay I am saying this with hand on my heart I know this is going to hurt you and I am sorry but I can’t do it anymore I’ve definitely had an awakening this weekend and me and you is not what I want anymore I’m 21 I need to be out living my life not sat at home wondering what’s gonna happen in the future. As you know I do want children and I don’t think your interested at all. You know deep down that it wasn’t working anymore between us.
I have left the house and I’ve taken what I need I did love you but I’m not in love with you I think it’s going to be better for us both going our separate ways and it’s what I want. I don’t need you worrying about me I can handle myself
I have found out she got news about her dad having go court her mother and father took cards out in daughter’s name thousands I found it when I looked her credit report I think that’s what’s happened she panicked but I can’t say for sure.
I did the begging got me no ware says she loved me but not in love I’ll never change things like that.
she wants a baby I not sure can give her one it’s not I don’t want a child I’m scared can’t give it to her but I should got checked.
I did the no contact and these are the txt
[14/09, 20:08] JAY My brain went into full panic mode, and I’m sorry for putting that pressure on you. I understand what you’ve said, and I respect your boundaries. I’m going to give you the space you’ve asked for. Take care and good night
[15/09, 13:43] Jj I’m not interested Jay x
[15/09, 14:00] Jj I have met someone and I am happy I think we both need to go our separate ways
this is were she txt
Jj Sexy Eyes: I honestly don’t know how I feel anymore I’m so scared of hurting everyone around me and I don’t know who I can truly trust anymore but I don’t know what I want xx
then deleted
[15/09, 18:06] JAY: It sounds like you’re dealing with a lot of pressure and feeling completely overwhelmed right now. I don’t want to be another source of stress for you. I care about you, and I’m right here, but I want you to take the time you need to breathe and get some balance in your life. We don’t have to figure everything out right now. I’m giving you the respect you deserve
[15/09, 21:44] Jj : Will u take me of the house shit
[16/09, 00:05] Jj : Please
[16/09, 10:30] JAY : JJ I don’t want you stressing about the Universal Credit and stuff at all. you can actually just report the change directly your sen whenever you’re ready so you don’t have to wait on me to sort it. I know you’ve got a massive weight your shoulders right now but I care about you and I hope you get through today
[16/09, 13:17] Jj: I don’t want your mum contacting m
my dad called by accident
[16/09, 13:31] JAY: well it was news to me as well I’ve told my mum to give you breathing space and she has promised me. But dad actually just tried video my mum and he’s called you by mistake you know how he is with technology he’s at my aunties Silvia’s and he’s trying to video call my mum, so I’m sorry about that. I hope you’re doing okay today
[16/09, 13:37] Jj Ok
this is when found out her dad’s tried running her over got arrested attempted murder
[16/09, 23:32] Jj Just thought u needed to know my dads been locked up he tried to kill me today
[16/09, 23:37] JAY Oh my god Hun, I am so, so sorry. Are you physically okay? Where are you right now? Tell me you are safe. I am right here for you, no matter what
[16/09, 23:39] Jj : I’m fine he tried to run me over
[16/09, 23:40] JAY: Thank God you are ok okay how close did he get to you?. That is absolutely terrifying Hun. Are the police with you right now? Make sure you stay inside and keep the doors locked. I am right here if you need me at all tonight
[16/09, 23:46] JAY JJ I don’t want ask were you are but please say your someware safe.
I am never more than a phone call away for you for always
[17/09, 00:10] Jj I’m fine I’m safe they don’t know where I am and they won’t know he didn’t hit me and he did scare me I stood and I stood my ground and he got arrested for attempted murder
[17/09, 00:15] JAY : what have I always told you you are braver than you think you are and that you will ever know, I am so incredibly proud of you for standing your ground that must of taken allot. thank fuck didn’t hit you though. but I am so glad you are safe. I don’t want ask who you are with it’s taking all my strength to go look for you to protect you. but I am right here on the end of the phone the second you want to talk or need anything at all no matter what time of day or night
[17/09, 00:48] Jj : I know I’m stronger and I’m safe just thought I’d let u know as he tried to kill me
[17/09, 00:51] JAY You are incredibly strong Hun I know this I’ve seen it grow Infront my eyes, and you have proven that to everyone today. I am so glad you are safe and that he can never hurt you again. I am right here keeping my phone on all night. Try and get some rest if you can, but I am right here if you need to talk or if you can’t sleep. and I know you to well doubt you sleep but please try.
my brave peanut head lol
[17/09, 02:20] Jj : I’m sorry I feel like I’m fucking with your head I did love you I really did but we both know that going out separate ways is what’s best for us both. We can still keep in contact if needs be but today was really hard that’s not something u ever expect to happen your own dad trying to kill you I knew he would try to come after me n I knew that when he did it would be for the last time he deserves everything that’s coming too him n so does my mum but she’s just arguing with me bc dads locked up 
I am sorry for hurting u n u will always have a special place in my heart that will never change
[17/09, 05:11] JAY : jj my brave peanut, you have absolutely nothing to be sorry for, and you are not messing with my head at all. I cannot even begin to imagine how hard today has been for you, harder than I feel I’ve let you down and your mum arguing with you right now is the last thing you deserve after what you’ve been through. I don’t care about anything else right now except that you are safe from him. I am right here in the background, no pressure at all. Just focus on breathing tonight get through this one step at a time.
You’ve got this I know
You’ve got this your strong let’s see the part of you I always said was there the part of you that smacks me in balls so I cry on the floor 10 mins, the part who started her new job scared but owed it.
the girl when I see that look I know you mean businesd
even if she doesn’t have a bone in its chin
lol
any advice I’d take I love her I’ve been married before I’m not novice with women but I’ve never felt pain of this we have pictures in the week before laughing jk her looking at me with that look.
my mother things she’s trying to get out the way all this trouble either embraced or trying look out for me.
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