My ex broke up with me in May, and ever since them, I have basically been desperately trying to get him back. I mean like I didn’t stop at all. The longest I went without contacting him was 2 weeks, and that was only one time. He just recently stopped responding to me, and now I’m back on day 6 of NC. I am curious, do you think it’s too late for the NC rule to work on him? He’s never experienced what losing me feels like because I’ve always been there trying to get him back and emailing him non stop. Would it make any difference now?
Hey, what you did after your breakup (contacting him and being desperate) is very very common. Don’t beat yourself over it. A lot of people do it and recover from it.
And yes, if you stop contacting him now and apply the no contact rule, it is going to make a difference as he will slowly realize that you CAN live without him.
But, the important part is to actually learn to live without him and be happy without him. Because of two reasons.
- Just in case it doesn’t work, you will still be glad you did it because you can now choose to leave him behind and move on.
- In case you both reconnect again, he will be able to notice whether or not you are still desperate. If you are still desperate, he will again pull away. But if he feels you have healed and can move on from him, he will be interested in you.
All this doesn’t mean you should get back with him. Remember, your relationship may be broken and you may be better off without him. So take some time to think if he is really worth it.