My ex and I work together, and I have to see her everyday and am forced to talk to her to let her know what has happened throughout the day since she takes over my job when I get off. We also have concert tickets that we’ve both paid for and want to go to, what should I do? How can I do the no contact period if I can’t go without seeing her.
Someone help me please.
It’s impossible to do absolute no contact in your situation. But don’t call her or text her. While at work, just be nice, casual and respectful. Don’t bring up the past relationship. If you’re not on good terms, don’t go to the concert, and pay her back for her half. Or give her your ticket so she can take someone else, like a friend or family member. It might be awkward if you go together. Because you didn’t give much detail, that’s all I could think of…
Thank you patricia12, we are on decent terms. It flip flops day to day, it just depends on how she is feeling whether she comes in and hugs me or pretends I don’t exist, which can be super confusing for me.
We are typically on good terms, however at our last concert, things got a little heated. When we weren’t kissing and flirting, we were arguing and yelling. We have 4 more coming up that we have to go to together that I really want to go to and don’t want to give up my ticket, she won’t either though. She takes sly digs at me almost constantly and is always on her phone texting someone else, and it makes me jealous and puts me in a bad mood. I don’t really know how to treat her, or exactly what to do in that situation. Our friendship is toxic but we are forced into it. However I go off to college in two months, which played a big factor in why we broke up. I don’t know what to do.
Yelling is never a good idea! What do you mean by you are forced into it? How long was the relationship? Is the college far away from where you are now? If you both have a desire to resolve this, maybe sit down and have a calm discussion about ways to improve a possible relationship. Let her know there’s no need for sly remarks and it only serves to strain your friendship and hurts your feelings. How do you know she’s on her phone texting if you only report off to her at work? Anyway, guess neither of you are going to miss the concerts. Would you meet there separately? When you say things got a little heated at the last concert, does that mean you got into an argument?
We are forced into a friendship since we work together and have these concerts, we have to get along and stay in contact. My college is only an hour away, but she believed I would find someone new, and we fought constantly about stuff regarding that. I want to resolve it, but she usually doesn’t want to talk about things.
And yes, we got into an argument at the concert over her texting and being secretive, and her sly remarks which led me to throw some remarks myself. We were there with a mutual friend and she had to break up the argument.
In your first post above, you didn’t say you work together. You have to talk to her about what happened throughout the day since she “takes over the job” when you get off. That sounds to me like you’re not together all day long, but rather have to give her some sort of report before you leave. Sounds like she doesn’t trust you and was assuming how things would go once you leave for college. One good thing about leaving is that you won’t have to see her everyday at work or listen to the constant digs. You still didn’t say how long the relationship was, but you have to ask yourself if this is something you want to pursue. Most people would run from a toxic unhappy relationship. I highly advise you do not go to the concerts. You are young and there will be other concerts to attend.