Hi Kevin
I am B Mz, I ws dating my ex for 5 years after we broke up.Our relationship became soo toxic and we were always fighting. We broke up t 2 years back after I saw him sleeping with another woman and 2 days later he never Spoke to me again. I was so hurt, broken to pieces, didn’t understand and all was left just hanging. In that 2 years of separation he only texted me once but nothing about us and I decided not to reply, a year later I texted him thanking him for being there for me in my needy days as I was about to Graduate he texted back congratulating and that he knew I will make it one day (this was 1 year 6 months of our breakup) and I was away for this time (out of town for 15 months).Everyday I longed he would talk to me, I longed he would sms me because I believed he had to atleast show me he is somehow sorry but he never did.My friends would tell me he asked why I’m scared and bla bla bla but never asked me. I came back to town, things started to strike back, started missing him so much again, 3 months later I texted him, I couldn’t handle anything anymore this was just getting to me again like in the beginning. So decided to text saying I miss him and wanted to check how he is doing, he replied positively (I didn’t expect that as he was so mean during our breakup). From there we kept chatting and I ended up sleeping with him again and we didn’t talk again. I thought this was a way of getting the closure I’m longing for. I was tired of thinking, stressing and stupidly thought I should do this (sex) maybe I can get some closure and way to let go. I love him so much but I believe we will never have a relationship again after how we broke up. What do I do now? Can I use the NC method too aftr I have slept with him. I really find it hard to let go and its very painfull.I no longer know what to do now. Please help me out.
Thank you in advance