we dated for two years, broke up at the end of January because I was in a bad place mentally and needed to focus on that for a bit(and some stuff that isn’t important).
Within a week she started dating someone else, and I did everything wrong for the first two weeks of their relationship. I begged and I annoyed and everything. She said that she didn’t love me anymore and that we were never getting back together and she loves him now.
I found this place a couple weeks ago and started no contact. During this time she has texted me a few times asking how I’m doing and such. I’ve just been cool about it.
I’ve gone on a few dates and stuff, and I’ll probably be mentally ready soon to contact her, but how do I go about it when she has someone new? They’ve been dating for a month now.
Honestly just follow the plan. The new bf is a rebound and they more than likely won’t last past 3 months, maybe less. Right now she is in the lovey honeymoon stage but after a while it will wear off, she may even know its a bad idea now but is trying to make it work out of loneliness, heartache and guilt. That is how it is with my ex, to some degree at least. The new guy is generally nice enough, usually different from you in some ways and pays attention to her. My advice is stick to NC then contact her after its over as usual. Pretend the new bf doesn’t exist, if she brings him up do not act jealous and calmly change the topic as soon as possible. If she is willing to talk to you frequently, which I would bet money isn’t something the new guy cares for, then she clearly values your company more than his wishes, which is good for you. When it comes down to it, the new guy is the bandaid for her hurt and the replacement for you, if you come back in a month as a new and improved version of yourself you will definitely be the better man in comparison.
Read these articles
How To Get Her Back When She Has a New Boyfriend
and
Get Your Ex Girlfriend Back
Should I wait until the relationship ends before contacting her again or what? That’s the only part I’m not clear in a situation like this.
They’ve been dating for a month now already.