I was doing no contact before I even found out about this website. My guy broke up with me in May for the reason that he felt like his feelings weren’t increasing (attraction) and he had some work to do on himself before he could be ready for a relationship (yet, we connected and had gotten sorta serious real quick). We continued seeing each other because we worked at the same place. I stopped working there in early July. I talked to him on my last day of work and then we didn’t speak again until I called him randomly in August just in a friendly way.
After that, I went silent–even on social media. Then, he texted me happy birthday in October and i replied with thank you and that it meant a lot that he remembered. Later that month, I ran into him at the store and the following day sent him a text. I tried to initiate texting. He was polite at first but then he was so dodgy despite me trying to get a convo going. I then asked him if he felt there was room in his life for us to talk again (like we used to). He then said to me: it was great getting to know you but I don’t feel there is room for that. I’m sorry and I hope you understand.
I felt like I died inside. I didn’t understand but I couldn’t bare to answer him back. I had been holding out hope and he shot me down just to talk again! YET, I soon after started using my social media again and he is always watching my snap and Instagram stories. If he doesn’t want anything to do with me then why keep tabs on me? I’m also, what I’d call, a better version of me. I feel more like the person I used to be and I see the things that went wrong before with us. Though, what are you guys’ thoughts on reaching out a second time? I’d rather not but since he checks my snapchat and Instagram regularly I wonder if there is another way to probe him to want to reach out?
I think you need to stop contact him. He made it very clear he doesn’t want to talk to you anymore. He sounds like a nice guy and he’s probably just curious looking at your social media, but it means nothing. The only thing that would count is if he called or texted you to talk or ask you out on a date. And sorry to say, but I don’t think he will do that anytime soon if ever. I don’t know why he broke up with you, but it sounds like his mind is made up and there’s nothing you can do to probe him to change it. You could wait a month and then take one more chance to send a text to let him know how you’ve changed, but it might look desperate. Sorry for your sadness, but at some point you need to stop chasing him. When you feel ready, date some local guys and have fun. Good luck.