Hi friends,
So I am ~ 2 weeks into no contact (the second time, I decided to send a clean slate message the first time). As most people are feeling, I am finding it incredibly difficult during the lockdown but pushing through and trying to focus on making myself happier etc.
My question comes because in September I will be moving to the area that my ex lives (not for him, I am starting a post grad course at my old uni). My original ‘plan’ was to do no contact then message him a little over the next few months before meeting up in September and suggesting we start things over (the start of our previous relationship had been very complicated, with me away travelling for 2 months and then moving to a different city for a job, which I believe was a strong driver for him ending things).
However, my mum has recently pointed out why don’t I start fighting for him sooner? (I truly believe he is the one for me). She said why don’t I just straight up tell him that I want to start over in September, so I can get a sort of answer now (obviously he could change his mind) and not spend the whole summer worrying about what he will say…
I am aware that he has made the decision to break up with me now, and that maybe that is final and he won’t change his mind. But the only major issue in our relationship before was the distance between us, and not seeing each other very often and him being stressed out by this and his job (newly qualified teacher) - so I feel like why not try again when things have calmed down? I would love to be able to convince him that, but I know he needs to realise on his own.
Any thoughts or advice would be very much appreciated 