I apologize if this is long. Anyway, my ex and I were together for 3 months(we met on a dating website). Our relationship was great and pretty intense. When we met there was an instant connection. It was like we had known each other longer than what we did. I should point out that this is a same sex relationship. My ex was married to a man for 10 years prior(they have two kids together).
So, my ex ended up getting evicted from the apartment she was living in. She couldn’t afford the rent. She ended up having to move her and her kids in with her mom. Her mom lives in a different city than she did. Her ex husband however did not want the kids put in a different school district. So my ex girlfriend has to drive back and forth from one city to the next to get the kids to and from school. When it’s her week to have them. It’s been taking a toll on her. She also has a full time job on top of it.
Now that brings me to why we broke up. With her having to move, and not being able to move the kids to the school district where she lives it was taking a toll on her emotionally. Basically, it caused her to be void of all emotion, and she could not handle a relationship.
So, we kinda mutually agreed to end things. However, we also decided to be friends with the possibility of getting back together. Unfortunately, the friendship didn’t last long. It was just too much too soon for the both of us. We should taken a short break first before trying to be friends. With her being void of emotion it was hard for me to be her friend. It was making me miserable and I know it was frustrating her. So, I kinda forced her to let me go.
Now the thing is I would like for us to start talking again, and try to be friends. I would also like us to get back together, but that’s a completely different conversation.
I’m trying to decide how long I should wait before trying to contact her again. I know it won’t be any time soon, because she needs time to work on getting herself better. I want to make sure enough time has passed so she doesn’t assume I’m desperate and needy.