Myself and my ex husband were together 16 years and we have 3 children. We sperated 10 months ago. I ended the relationship, throughout our 16 years together he would get into fights on nights out, has had dealings with the police, would stay out until 7am in the morning (not every time) and stumbling in the door while I’d be putting breakfast on the table for our children. In all that time I told him you need to stop this behaviour or you will lose me and our children.
He might behave for a few months and then he would chose to stay out again known that he was going to lose me. In the end I had an affair for 6 months. I didn’t end my marriage over the affair but down to him getting into another fist fight, although the affair was still going on when I ended my marriage. The day my husband left the house was the day I ended the affair cause I realised I loved my husband very much. My ex knows of my affair, since our split we have slept together and also have had cuddles. Every time he is out he will txt me about 5am in the morning. I have wrote him a letter explaining my affair and fullying taking the blame and asking him if we can work things out.
He has said it is highly unlikely we will get back together in the foreseeable future. I am totally obsessed with him, checking his FB page through my sons account as we are not friends. Today I started the NC or in my case limited contact because of the kids. I know he is still in love with me and very much so attracted to me as he has told me so. Do you think the NC will work or is me having an affair the most unforgivable thing ever and I should just allow him and me to move on.
Thank you for reading x