My gf and I broke up about a week ago. She told me she wasn’t “in” love with me anymore but wanted to date me and work on us and date other people. I decided to call her bluff and decided to tell her we could just be done. Wished her goodbye and good luck. The next day she sent me a sappy live song about how my heart will heal. The next day she sent me midnight a pic of her and another girl (I’m gay) athe a bar with the caption happy birthday. Yesterday I get a text telling me how upset she was wasting a year of her life with me. I have been doing NC since saying goodbye and have not replied to any texts. I really do love this woman so was wondering the mean behind her going from nice to nasty and if I can get some advice on if the NC will work in my case
Wow, sounds hot and cold responses you are getting. I think that your doing the right thing with NC. Perhaps you need to take the NC time and maybe do a pro’ and con’ list when you can clear your mind and heart from the hot and cold treatment. After the 30 days you can make the right choice to meet up with her and discuss things.
It’s hard for us (gay) people as I think in our community we have a lot of transient relationships. And often I think we can be brutal to one another. I am sure the same is of heterosexual to a degree.
You need this NC time to work on yourself to determine if it’s the right path for you.
Happy to chat anytime. Going through my own battle myself.
I received an email yesterday which I did not respond to. Once again throwing her new relationship in my face. Telling me how wonderful this woman is and all her amazing traits. Kinda chuckled since she met this woman once. I’m not perfect but I always treated my ex with respect and quite understand when I became public enemy number 1. Zionsville would love to chat with you
I agree. NC is the best.
She clearly doesn’t know what she wants so by doing NC it gives her time to think about her decisions. I think the NC is also essential because that’s the only way she’ll reaaaally know what it’s like without you.
Hope it works out. But definitely keep doing the NC.
7th day of no contact and 4 of those I received shitty messages from my ex. She was the dumper. Just can’t understand if you didn’t want to be with me, now hate my guts, why you need to contact me. NC really stinks as I would love to lash back with my own insulting texts but I’m gonna take the high road and shut my mouth. Hoping this gets easier.