He was tired of me

Hey there , I am Thanh Thảo , i am 18 years old and i have been suffered a heart-broken situation.

My boyfriend broke up with me last Monday (October 2nd ,2017) he told me that he had been thinking a lot and this is the only way to make us feel comfortable to each other. He said that he feels like he is the only one who is interested in this relationship , i wasnt there when he need me. In fact , i was quite busy the last 2 weeks because i have to set up a showcase in my university, i spent most of my time discussing with my friend how to make a perfect showcase . We were happy back then , before i join to make that showcase , we even went on a date . But then , he felt insecure, he was tired because i didn’t spend any time for him, and more over when we were still in high school , my mother didn’t allow me to date him, she told me we can do anything we want when we go to university. So when we went to university, he told me to talk to my mom about that , but i was shy to talk to my mom so i stay quiet

Another thing is that we broke up once , becuz i was interested in another person, i told him that i was over, even if i like that guy , i would still come back to my boyfriend , and i did . I blocked that person and never contacted to him again . But my boyfriend still scared , he told me that he didn’t make me feel happy like that guy did , he wasnt confident , he feels like he want to break up so that i can find another guy to make me happy. But i refused , i told him that i want him, only him. But he want to break up so i agree, because i know that if i continue to beg him, it wont work.

The next 2 days , i inboxed him , i told him i miss him , he put the sad icon and told me “i love you , i miss you too , but i dont want to get back with you , im sorry , remember to eat , sleep well and dont overdo anything” and then i stay quiet . And last night , i missed him so bad so i contacted him again , i was confused so i begged him to come back with he, he act cold “stop it, enough, dont inbox me , i wont reply , you should go to sleep , i maybe still in love with you , but i cant take it anymore” and cried and text him “when you love someone that much , you would never give up on them”. He replied “One day , i will give up , i’m tired , im going to sleep”, and then i sent him an ofline mess , he read , seen but didnt reply me.

I was frustuated and i found out about this website , so i start no contacting him for 2 days now , i feel quite okay , i went to the gym and i started to love myself more . I feel very happy , but i miss him ,i want him to start missing me , and agree to come back with me. But he still follow me on Instagram , so he probabbly everything i did because i post story everyday , should i block him on instagram so he would start missing me? And i feel like this time , he dont want to come back to me again. PLease help me , i love him very much . I have been together for 1 years 8 month now , and i am willing to change myself because of him . What should i do when a month later , i met him? and what should i do when the no contact period is over , i text and i dont want to reply? Help me please . Thank you so much

@thaothab - I’m sorry this happened to you. His reason for breaking up wasn’t because of you’re being busy for those 2 weeks. It had to do with the cumulative effect of your interactions over the past year and 8 months. You can’t talk a guy into wanting to be with you. He has to make up his own mind. Going no contact will help him think more clearly. Stay no contact for at least 30 days. After that, simply write or call to ask how he’s doing and you could ask if he wants to meet up for a fun day together. Don’t beg to reunite.

While you’re in no contact, focus on yourself and school work. Also do fun things with your friends and don’t obsess about him. Take it one day at a time. Good luck.

I agree with patricia. He broke up with you and he has said more than once he didn’t want contact for a while. You don’t need to tell him anything, you have told him enough, he knows where you stand and he himself asked for no contact for a while. Give it 30 days of no contact and work on making yourself happy. I know it is difficult. If he is following you on instagram, I would stop posting to instagram or make your account private or something. Posting on instagram when you know he will read it is contact.

OMG thank you so much , your advice did help me a lot , i feel better now . I have been posting a lot of positive photos about my life , he did watch my story but i will listen to you, i will probably make my insta private. I doing great now, thank you so much