He is seeing someone else and has my stuff still

Breakup Help reconciliation
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Hello Everyone!

I’ve stalked these threads lately but it’s time to post finally as I’ve had no sleep what so ever over this situation that unfolded last night.

We broke up early April. Well not really a break up. Things were getting serious like him hinting to practically “move in” and how he was scared he is off how much he likes me. I had busy weekend following that and we really got chatting properly the Tuesday (via text while at work). Things were stressful at work and he snapped and I suggested if he didn’t want space. We were meant to spend the following weekend for his birthday but obviously that didn’t happen. I gave him space… We’ve been together since December but honestly haven’t felt chemistry like it before. Neither of us have.

Since then I’ve had sporadic messages from me initiating all the time. He was very quick with the responses but he let it fizzle after some backwards and forwards. So I decided after reading this going no contact as he was off on holiday.

Lierally stopped watching his snap stroies and even unfollowed him on insta to focus on myself.

It was left I would contact him to meet and get my bits when he was back. He was only gone for a week. But I felt NC was the best way to go about it.

He has been back a week and I noticed Friday he unfollowed me too. Which was fine as it’s tit for tat kinda thing.

Since then I’ve stalked his insta as it’s public, which I shouldn’t have as I’ve been strong for 2 weeks (not long I know). Only to notice there is a new girl on the scene and it appears he spent the night with her Saturday.

Now NC was for me and healing as I was obsessing over his social media. But I don’t want to be a mug either. Do I just ask for my stuff back now? Or wait for it a to fizzle with this new girl who is 8 years his senior and a teenager still.

We’ve not been together 6 months. So it’s not long enough for me to sit back and not just grab my things and cut ties?

But as much as I want to do that. Half heartly I don’t want to ruin my chances of at least giving it a go.

Just tell me straight if I’m just being a fool.

Thanks for reading and in advance your advice.

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This was a very short relationship and already he’s with someone else. Texting isn’t the best way to communicate as misunderstandings can develop. Better to talk on the phone or interact in person. A word of advice:NEVER move in with a guy unless you’ve known him at least a year or more! As to the social media, it’s good you’re not stalking it, but don’t change the “unfollowing” thing. What’s done is done and you’ll look flaky if you change it again. Actually it would be better to collect your things now and let the chips fall where they may… I understand you’re probably stressed, but take care of yourself.

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Thank you for your reply Patricia

Yeah where it’s short I can’t be angry or upset how it all panned out. Just disappointed with myself for finally letting my walls down and him to do this.

I messaged him this morning before reading this reply actually but on my old phone. As I didn’t need the “will he won’t he message back” while at work.

I was typing and he came into the chat instantly but I hadn’t finihed typing yet. You can’t hide on Snapchat. Anyway obviously he read it instantly. I didn’t look back at my phone. Put it down and head to work.

So will keep you posted once I get home :slight_smile: