I just feel like we’ve been through this so many tines and this time may be the last time…I wish there was something I could say…I know what you mean about missing me I miss him so much already…but I know that usually the person breaking up feels differently then the person being broken up with and I’m afraid he just won’t miss me this time since things went so bad…
I broke up with too many guys including my last ex and i missed all of them.
Don’t worry about anything.He will miss you.Be positive.Love yourself and do something to make yourself happy.You should believe that everything is gonna be fine.
A.z did you go back to them or just miss them and is there anything they could have done to change your mind?
Yes i got back with some of them.One of them actually really shocked me.After being desperate and crying and begging for me to get back with him for more than 2 weeks,he went NC and i saw how great his life is.He was really happy and i saw he didn’t even care anymore.I asked him to get back with me.
I wanted to get back with another ex after almost a year of NC.I forgot the bad memories i missed him and i saw the new positive him.(i couldn’t get back with him because i was in another relationship and he was in another state and LDR was kinda difficult for me.so it was the circumstance not him. )
I got back with another ex after 6 months.He never changed or anything but i just missed him and we got back together.
And there are some of them that i never got back with because i never felt something strong for them in the first place.But when it comes to love or any kind of a serious relationship,no matter what,exes will miss each other.
Girly, trust me… Day 4 of NC is noothing to analyze.
It could be weeks or months.
Hi Girly,
You are indeed at the early stages of NC. Stay calm and you will see that things will be much better day by day. Just be patient.
A.Z
Your words surely can give strength (as usual). Especially about this ex that shocked you by being great after his NC. Hope works for me as well 
Keep up being amazing…
I guess my worries come from the fact that I feel like I had my chance a few weeks ago when we got back and I blew it by taking the condom issue out of proportion. After that fight he told me he used to be on the fence about us and now he jumped right over to the no side…I told him that he was the one that initiated contact not me and he said “sorry about that” so now where can I find hope? A.z thank you for sharing how your situations went btw
Julia and Girly
Your more than welcome x
Girly,
You don’t have to be thinking about what he said.You don’t have to be thinking about the negative things that MAY happen.
Don’t worry about what he said,it doesn’t mean that he can’t change it.I said so many things to my ex that i didn’t even mean.Don’t worry about the past.It doesn’t even exist now and don’t worry about the future it may change in every second.Live in the present and try to be the happiest version of your self then you will attract positive things into your life.
1 week of Nc today and I think to myself…how does any man that loves you allow even 1 day let alone 1 week without contact to go by…I guess I don’t get it…
Girly -
Try to think this way:
You two breaking up is a fact. If he broke it off and contacts you now, which is not a perfect timing because both of you may be not emotionally stable, is it something a responsible guy would do?
And just because he hasn’t contacted you doesn’t mean he doesn’t want to or he doesn’t miss you. It’s just not a great time. Trust me he misses you too.
A.z. -
What you said reminds me The Secret, have you read that book or watched that movie?
I do believe that everything happens for a reason and what is meant to be will be…in fact I do believe he is my soulmate…it’s just hard to understand, knowing how I love someone how he can just let me go and be afraid to lose me…I was married for 19 years and I walked away from my marriage and never looked back. He’s been flip flipping for the last 2 months…I don’t get it and don’t even know how to respond when he does come back. I can keep on this roller coaster. I need to feel secure…
I’ve read parts of the secret years ago… I understand the concept of visualizing what you want as though you already have it. I’ve been visualizing him with me in a happy healthy relationship…
Is there nothing I can write to him at this point that will be effective or do I continue with NC?
A.z I need your help…he contacted me and said “it’s nice to see you unblocked me from Facebook” I unblocked him yesterday but the only way he would know that is if he looked me up. What should I say? I was thinking" when I saw the condoms in your bag I felt horrible. It felt like my heart sank into my stomach…what do you think?
Ok so instead I wrote…I felt bad blocking you…I know how it feels.
Haven’t heard back…
Hey,
Sorry i wasn’t available earlier.
Its ok i’m pretty sure he will contact you again.
Sunshinegirl,
Yeah i’ve read The Secret and many other books like that 
So basically we texted back and forth for a bit. We talked about the condom situation and I told him how I felt. He said he was offended that I checked on him and that I need to learn to trust. I told him I felt scared and unsafe and I’m sorry he didn’t understand how I was feeling. I told him I felt hopeless at the time. Then I excused myself from the conversation and said “anyhow I’m stepping out…It felt good hearing from you” and ended the convo. He didn’t respond after that…what do you think?? Did I do well by ending it?
Yes,you did well.
BUt if you want to get back with him,tell him that you have been thinking and you don’t care what he did/didn’t when you weren’t together.Say that you are both single now and you are both free to do anything you want.And then don’t bring up that subject again.
So should I text him tomorrow and tell him I was thinking about our convo and then say what you said? Or wait fir him to text again…IF he does
It would be better to wait until he contacts you.But if you wanna say that,You can text him.And say nothing more than that.Then wait for him to contact you.
Hi a.z please help me to understand the mindset about saying that…I don’t really want him to go out there…what feelings does this trigger for him??