Hi,
My boyfriend of almost 2 years broke up with me two weeks ago, convinced I was cheating on him - which is not true. We were living together for last 6 months. Till few months ago we had amazing relationship, than we were separated for work for a month. When he came to work there also looks like someone told him I was cheating on him. And than everythung went down. He started a accusing me of cheating almost on daly basis. It came to the point he was following me around, checking my phone, fb- he never found anyhing because there was nothing and what ever I said it was not enough to prove or to make him believe that is not true. He would call me names from a w***, liar… After I while like this I started tu pull away from him, I was offended hurt, disappointed that he would even think like this of me and saying all those things too me. I really thought he was the one and would never do anything to hurt him. Than he broke up with me because he took this as a proove that all this is true.
We talked few times after and he was good and polite till we started to talk about ourselves… Than he would start to insulting and accusing me again. So I started no Contact rule few days ago. I relly wish he would realise that we are separated because of a lie and things that never happened. We are both hurting a lot-him because he thinks I cheated and me because I was accused, dumped and humiliated by him. I relly don’t know how to proceed with all this.
Continue no contact. He should calm down and believe you.
Thank you for your advice patricia12. I hope he will realise - because how ever I tryed to tell him, he would just not believe me. He actually started to belive that he is right and nothing or no one was able to convince him that he is not.
@Gaby82 It’s a shame that after 2 years he wouldn’t believe you. He must know you and your heart after these past 2 years, so it’s strange and difficult to understand why he doesn’t believe you!
Hopefully with no contact, it will give him a chance to think more rationally…
Good luck and stay strong:)
Thank you again. Yes it’s so hard that he doesn’t believe me after almost 2 years together. I’m going on with no contact and try to heal.
I read so many articles about this kind of behaviour - and looks like he has major trust and insecurity issues. I just hope all this will sort out and all will be good on the end.
Thank you again.
@Gaby82 Yes, major trust and insecurity issues are difficult to overcome.
But don’t give up hope yet and stay strong with your no contact.
I hope it all sorts out too, but only time will tell…
Wishing you the best of luck:)