Long story short I haven’t contacted my ex in over two months or so nor have I actively tried getting him back. Some of his actions seem to have confused me though. How would you understand the following? (they are in order) :
Looking rather stricken and emotional when seeing me - Adding me back on facebook - Lying deliberately to my friends that he has a girlfriend then asking my friends to say ‘hi’ to me for him - Looking panicked and stricken when he sees a friend I’m closely associated with - Liking some photos, poking me, on Facebook - Now, over a week ago my friend lost me around town, saw him and asked him for my number. He gave her the number than insisted very seriously on talking to me himself. My friend who was with my at the time answered the call and refused him talking to me as I was in no fit state to speak to him. But he didn’t know that.
How would you read his actions?
Also, last week he saw me kissing another guy (It was not deliberate to make him jealous, just bad timing) and did not look really happy and pointedly started avoiding me when I walked over to his group of his friends, yet one of his friends did ask me to join them. Did this kill my chance of ever getting him back?
I’m 17. he’s 19. It was a rough break up, he basically lost interest in me due to believing a rumour about me cheating on him. He would not believe no matter how much I tried convincing him it isn’t true. I was very expressive with him about my feelings for him and tried my very best to rekindle things and show him I’d never do such a thing.
hey,
You did nothing wrong.he broke up with you and you have all the rights in the world to do whatever you like.so don’t worry about it.
Actually you have been doing great,you sound like a really wise girl.the fact that you avoided talking to him after 2 months really impressed me.well done !!!
He absolutely doesn’t want you out of his life and it seems like he doesn’t want to lose you completely.when he saw you kissing that guy,it made him feel like he might be losing you forever.and its not a bad thing in your situation at all.
One thing that ryan river suggests on Relationship Rewind is when you are in Death’s Door stage,you should at least pretend like you are moved on,and its even better if your ex see that you are in a new relationship.so don’t worry about it.
I believe you are somewhere between Drift stage and Death’s door.
Death’s door is when someone cheated,or did something that made the partner so mad. and drift is when you just break up because of a fight , circumstances and loss of attraction.
He is kinda chasing you and you are friends on social media so you don’t have to deal with death’s door’s worst case scenario and the good point is that he is not indifferent to you.
You do have a chance to get him back.work on yourself and whenever your ready you can reply if he contacts.or you can contact him.
Try to make positive changes in your life so you can attract him again and always be cool,positive and confident.
His friend may have asked me to stick around with them but I went back to the guy I was with, I’m not bad at concealing lingering feelings.
some other signs: went into a rebound relationship and talked about his previous relationship with me and why we broke up (He’s not with this girl anymore, she was more of a fling, she told me herself about what he was telling her!) He has also told a lot of other people that him and I used to date …
I feel like I should definitely focus on myself more before seriously attempting to get him back. The only thing is, I’m so scared of contacting him myself, I’m scared I’ll look desperate, needy and that he’ll reject him.
When i hear you say those things,i feel like i’m talking to myself.
I never contacted my ex after NC and he did.although i don’t think if that’s a bad thing to contact him and act happy and confident.trust me, after what he saw,he doesn’t think if you are needy at all LOL .btw i’m kinda sure that if you don’t contact him, he will contact you.
You are doing great,don’t ask anyone anything about him,don’t stalk him on anything and try to be happy.
Always show that you are happy especially when he is around.
Use social media,upload photos that show you are having a great time without him.
Don’t make him jealous over and over again it may backfire.
Keep up the good job and i’m sure you are gonna be fine.
It really cheered me up and made my day!