Got my ex back... Hope story for everyone

reconciliation
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Hi Guys,

I just wanted to give everyone an update. I got my ex back. I want this to inspire everyone.

My current gf and I had a pretty ugly break up a few months ago. It was just going downhill for a few months: we were getting into fights, we weren’t communicating well, her friends and family suggested she cut me out, and eventually she did. She even told me she doesn’t love me anymore, and that she never wanted it to work out.

So I was devastated. I didn’t beg - I tried to understand why, but gave up after just 3 days or so; instead, I tried on my own to cope with the sadness. And while it’s impossible to do it completely on one’s own, it’s important to be able to be happy on one’s own. So I tried. I hit golf balls, I went on hikes, I started some volunteer projects, etc. I made myself feel good about what I was doing, even without her around. I was suffering, yes, but I was also realizing that I was going to be fine with or without her.

Now one day, I saw her and her mom walking down the street, well past the one month no contact period, and decided now was the time to begin again. I figured I was in the right state of mind to talk to her, and if things didn’t go well, to be okay. So I did. And she was hot and cold. The very first time we talked on the phone, she agreed to meet up with me, buy me lunch, and hang out. Then, she bailed. The second time, she agreed again, but again, she bailed when I tried to swing by her school unannounced. So I gave up for a few more weeks and decided I was done until I realized that I think the reason she was playing games is that SHE WAS MORE HURT THAN I WAS. And was more unsure that I loved her than I was about her. So I made it easy - I asked her to meet me at a park on the weekend.

Long story short, we are back together. And we are going to take things slow.

Guys, I can give you more details if you want, but I just want to emphasize that even in the worst, worst, worst situations, true love doesn’t die. And if the person truly loves you, they will give you a chance, eventually. Space is needed for both of you guys sometimes. I’m not even sure what’s going to happen in my case, but I know now that true love is there. And don’t be sad if you’re trying to show you love a person and they aren’t back. You are doing right, and they’re not. You’re not the loser, they are. So anyway, good luck!

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Thank you!! that really is motivating! I’m happy to see that people here are really getting their exes back. It gives me hope :slight_smile: I haven’t heard your story before but I feel happy for you :slight_smile:

I agree with you, true love doesn’t die, and if two people truly love each other, they will always find their way back to each other, if not, then maybe they just haven’t loved you enough.

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Your story is really motivating and hopefull. Youre are right. If loves truly excist people will find a way back.

Good luck and i hope you will keep her forever:)

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This is amazing. I hope that all of us one day find our ways back like @YBSM did. Hope that one day it will be me who posts something like this. Everyone wish each other luck, that one day we find our loves again. =)

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Perhaps we should all post something like this one day no matter what happens. Either we’ll post that we got back together with our ex’s at last or we’ll post to tell everyone that we’ve finally found peace about the breakup and decided to move on.

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If I may ask how old are you guys?

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So pleased there is hope!

Good luck everyone, no matter what happens you all deserve to be happy and nothing less! xx

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@YBSM,

Spare some details? Im curious :slight_smile:
How was the meeting in the park? Did she started talking about getting back or did you?

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so how did you get her to take you back at the park ? did you ask her back or did you mention it or did she insist please tell me im at the point i dont even know how to talk to my ex she is mad that i blew her off for so long.

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Hi - I’m 22 and she’s 19. We were together for a little over a year and were split up and not talking for about 2 months.

However, pretty much as soon as I started talking to her, she was cooperative again. Until I moved in too fast, then she got scared and backed off. I think she was hurting too, and we’ve decided to take our love slowly.

At the park, she just showed up and hung out with my baby brother and myself. I let him play on the play structures while we talked. And she was very cooperative with talking, but when I tried to bring her near she was she hesitant and even pushed me away. But because she met me and had been talking to me before, it was clear she still loved me.

That being said, her parents hate me, she even told me she didn’t love me at one point. So I’m treading carefully. I’m going to take what I get, but know I deserve what I want. I think I want her, and I know I love her, but if it doesn’t work out its okay. Hope this helps guys.

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Can you give any tips on my situation? https://www.forum.exbackpermanently.com/boards/topic/he-says-he-would-like-to-get-back-but/page/11/

Just reading the first posts and the last 1 or 2 pages is enough I guess.

Congrats and thank you