Giving stuff back

Hi,
So I just read the main article and since my relationship ended yesterday I’m just starting the ‘no contact’ portion of it. I actually have a question about that because when we go back to college, we are planning on seeing each other to give the other their stuff back that we left in their apartments. Should I agree to meet him to give his stuff back? Or should I find another way to give it to him? I will not be going back for 2 weeks, but I know for me I will need more time of no contact to get to the place I need to be to see if I even want to get back with him. So basically I don’t know if I should physically see him after only 2 weeks even if it is to give him his stuff back.
Thank you!

Hello Sierra, how are you?

You are right to take time out for you before you find your ex.

Maybe you can wait longer to deliver things, or you can do like my ex and mail.

How long were you together?

Best

Go through a friend or arrange to leave the stuff somewhere to be picked up… That’s what I’ve been doing since I’ve been on NC. He was coming to see me before and it was awful. Cod id just get sad and upset :frowning:

So it’s been better since I haven’t had to see him. Been easier for me to heal. And now the interactions we have are pleasant and not emotionally fuelled

We were together for 3 years. There is a possibility for me to push it back to make it 25 days of no contact but that’s the farthest I can. I know I shouldn’t see him, but I still want to kinda to see how he’s doing. And maybe to see how I’ve been able to heal.