Hi everyone,
I’m new to this site, i’ll try to make my post as short and clear as possible. I really need some advice.
I’m 26 years old, she’s 24, and we’ve been together for 7 years. We’ve had a very stable relationship, and we even were making plans to move in together and get married.
Well, a week ago we had an argument and she told me that she felt like I wasn’t giving her her space, and that she gave me mine whenever I wanted to do something(she was right). She said that she couldn’t enjoy a night out with the girlfriends because of what my reaction could be. I never said that she couldn’t go out, but she told me that I acted cold whenever she came back from wherever she was. And to some extent I did acted a little bit weird, or cold/serious. We had those problems in the past and when I realized what I was doing. I tried and changed that behavior (it clearly was not 100%).
So now she says she wants to be alone, and actually enjoy her time with her friends or whatever she wants to do, without giving anyone an explanation. I really understand her, and I told her that I had to respect her decision, and I didn’t try to convince her otherwise. I just apologized and told her that I acted wrong. Too late.
So I haven’t contacted her for a week now, because I want to respect her decision. But the thing is, I know it’s something that I can work on and fix, but I know she thinks that I can’t change. Aside from that, we had an awesome relationship. And I can’t let her go without trying to win her back.
As of now I haven’t contacted her for one week, and I’m planning on doing the 30 days NC.
The thing is, she seems pretty ok going out with her friends a lot, and she just unfriended me from Facebook and instagram.
I just want to know what you guys think about my situation, what else should I do? As i said, i want to try hard to win her back, and if it doesn’t work, then I’ll let her go.
Please help me, and thanks in advance.
-Mike C-