I broke up with my ex boyfriend about 3 months ago, we drifted apart due to work and things happening in our lives but we agreed to be friends and didn’t have any bad feelings between us.
But during these last three months we haven’t spoken and I’ve realised how much Ive missed him and want to be with him. I reached out to him messaging asking to talk and I got a reply of he “didn’t think he was up for it” and I never pushed it but a week later I messaged him telling him that saying that he didn’t think he was up for talking wasn’t clear on wether he wanted to talk to me or not, I also apologised for the way things ended with us and asked for a chance to fix things but he looked at the message and never responded. It’s been over a week now and I’m going out of my mind thinking that doesn’t want anything to do with me but he has kept me on social media and other platforms.
Am I overthinking or have I not given him enough time to think? And how do I go about trying to get him back?
@CMacC3 How long were you in a relationship with him prior to the breakup? Did you break up with him OR did he break up with you??
You reached out to him asking to talk, but he said he doesn’t think he’s up for it. A week later you contacted him again apparently because it wasn’t clear if he wanted to talk or not. Really? It’s clear to me that he meant he didn’t want to talk and wasn’t up for it!!
It’s nice you apologized, but asking for a chance to fix things so soon after he said he’s not up for talking, was a mistake.
Stop thinking about the social media stuff and start strict no contact! You’re correct; you have not given him enough time to think.
PS: What were the reasons for the breakup??
@patricia12 We were together for 5 months and I broke up with him because I was struggling with mental health issues and at that point would have dragged him down with me and that I was being hassled by family telling me that I was making a mistake being with him because “I wasn’t straight” and it made me feel I wasn’t good enough for him. (I always thought I only liked women and my family knew I was openly gay but as soon as me and him got together apparently I was confused and wasn’t straight)
The way he wrote the whole message wasn’t that clear and others told me to message him again and tell him how I felt and at the time I thought it was the best thing to do. I’m not used to the whole right and wrong things to do in relationships because I haven’t had much experience with them especially with men.
@CMacC3 It sounds like you’re very young, but don’t worry, you will learn more life lessons and become wiser as you grow older. Maybe you’re in therapy for your mental health issues and if so, wishing you good luck:)
For now, just give him more time and stay no contact.
Hopefully you two will be able to work things out…