FWB or is he as confused as I?

Quick facts: I’m 25, ex is 26, dated for 2,5 years and lived together for about 2… 7 years ago (yeah… I was 16 back then, but it’s legal where I come from, though unusual)… Super bad break-up… Lots of public yelling and stuff…

So… We started NC (not knowing it was a thing) kept it for two years… Then hooked up… And have been hooking up every two years since…

It took him moving to the other end of the island and some unusual events to get us talking… But for almost a year now, we’ve been talking every few weeks, and for the past few weeks, almost every day…
We’re done being mad, and talk about everything… And his just so darn wonderful!

His roomie is out of town for the next 3 months, and he asked me to visit for a few days, just for the fun of having me around… Because “I was never really able to shake the thought of you, everything in me still reacts to the mere thought of you”…
He then followed up with a note about this being strictly casual…
But now… I’m not sure about anything… He says he’s looking for a casual relationship(FWB) but he insinuated that he would like to go skiing with me… Asked if I would like to go sailing with him in the summer, and demanded that I would let him teach me how to sail his boat…

Everyrimw something good happens he text me… Or something bad… He was in a car accident last weekend, and texted me while in the ER…

We text all day in the weekends and most days after work and long into the night…

He is nothing like the kid I fell in love with almost 10 years ago, he’s better!
And I’m falling all over again(not that he knows)…

But I can’t wrap my mind around his mixed signals… Telling me it’s just a FWB relationship he’s hoping for, but including me in his life and wanting me to experience his new hobby…

I’ve asked him out for coffee, in an attempt to take things slow, and he agreed…

But I am lost on how to proceed and what to believe…

So here’s my question, what does he want from this?

And how do I go about this without getting my feelings hurt to much?

Thx in advance
(and sorry for spelling and grammar, English is my 4’th language)

If he said he wants a FWB relationship, that’s exactly what he wants, nothing more. Just someone to chat up and have sex with. You may want to go along with his idea, but you deserve better. When you meet him for coffee, put your cards on the table. If you will accept being a buddy, say so. But if you want a loving relationship someday, tell him you’re not looking for a FWB. Just be sure of what you want and tell him. Good luck.

Okay… Part of me hoped that actions meant more than words…

So how do I proceed… I don’t want to be FWB…
I know that he’ll get under my skin and I’ll end up getting hurt…
But I’m scared that we’ll just go back to not talking…

I know it’s silly, it’s been 7 years since the break-up, I’m stronger, smarter, more confident than back then… I’ve moved on, accepted that it wasn’t going to be us and that the kid I knew was gone…

And he’s not that kid… He’s a new man…
Its like I know all about him… Except who he is now…
Got no idea how to read him…

Actions AND words are what count and if it’s genuine, they go together. He probably just needs a friend to talk with and do fun things, it doesn’t mean he wants a loving relationship with you. If you want to visit him and take a chance that he might want a serious relationship, go ahead, but don’t be surprised if it turns out to be exactly what he said, fwb. I wish you could meet someone who wants what you want and would gladly give it to you instead of yanking your chain. Take care of yourself and God Bless…