So my whole story is on a different thread, if you are wanting to look that information up then here is the link. https://www.forum.exbackpermanently.com/boards/topic/after-4-5-years-she-wanted-to-take-a-break/
Otherwise, here is an update and I need some advice. I came across some information and I had found out yesterday that she in fact was having sexual interactions with another guy and was afraid that she could be pregnant. Yea I know we are not together but I will never see her the same way. I still had the ring she gave me for our 3 year anniversary but I had put it in a drawer somewhere out of sight and out of mind. However, after coming across the new confirmations, I have gotten to the point where I don’t want to be in a relationship with her as she is now. The thought of her honestly disgusts me. I love her still and that is unconditional but I hate the things she has done and who she is becoming.
I got a text from her mid day yesterday that said,
“Are you mad? The note sounded like you were really mad at me and I don’t want to take it the wrong way. I want you to know I appreciate the letter you wrote last week (I wrote her a magic letter). I am glad that you are becoming truly you, not doing everything revolved around me. You are growing and that makes me so happy to see.”
I did not respond to that text.
I decided to go look in her room this morning (we live together but have separate rooms) and look to see what she did with the ring. She put it in one of her drawers. In that drawer I found a note that I am assuming she is planning on giving to me. I read it and here is what it says,
"Nick,
To start, you don’t know how proud of you I am. You are growing so amazing and I am glad that you are finally finding friends that are good to you and that you can share your faith with. You seem like you are becoming you and truly you, not what I expected of you. This break has been the best thing for you and I can see that.
Though it may not seem apparent to you, it has been the hardest thing I have done. But I knew that it was what had to be done. It kills me everyday thinking about the pain I put you in. That was the worst part. I figured we would still be around each other enough to where I wouldn’t lose you as a friend.
This has also been one of the scariest things I’ve done. It reminds me of the story where Peter was called to get out of the boat and walk on water. We are both like Peter in this case. I know for myself that I need to trust that I will not sink, so do you. That is what has made it okay for me. The trust that it will be okay as long as I don’t forget what is important. It occurs to me every day that I may have just ruined my future/chance with the right person until I take the step back and realize why i did it to begin with. This was not my plan, but His plan. And I think we both know that, even though it can be hard to remember at sometimes.
Though it is very different for me, I am joyful and I am making the best of everyday. Ive been spending a lot of time with Kiera doing homework or just hanging out. I read out of that AMAZING bible you got me everyday before bed (its so pretty!!! Food choice).
Seeing the ring on my desk hit me hard. That seemed like you closing the door on me for good. And if that’s what you are called to do, then I guess that’s how it goes. I don’t expect you to wear it anymore, but that note threw me off. They way I see it is that you are done being friends or anything for good. I am going to keep your ring most likely because it is a reminder of whats important. If you do want it back, you are free to ask.
Know I do enjoy talking to you and chatting. I know that this might not be how it goes from now on though. Whatever you need to do, don’t hesitate regardless of what it means for me.
I am so proud of you Nick,
-Chelsey"
So, tell me what you guys think. Tell me that this actually means something… Right now to me, all I see is words on a page.
Thanks,
Nick