Okay so I have a complex situation and I am seeking for open minded advice because of this.
I am a trans guy (female to male) - this information unfortunately is key hence why it’s so complex.
At the age of 14 I was still female, however I fell in love with a girl who she thought I was a guy. We communicated over msn (at the time), text, endless phone calls etc. I knew her, I was a couple years below her at school. However she had no idea that she was talking to me. This was going on for at least 10 months until one of my friends at school told her.
Before she found out, we were great, we openly told each other that we cared for one another and eventually fell in love! As the title suggests, “stupid choices”.
Without going through the ins and outs unless required; our relationship broke down when she found out.
I am stuck now in a postition 10 years on where I am now, fully Male and still feeling something towards her.
I messaged her a couple months ago after years of not talking, apologising for my stupidity and the affects I may have caused.
She said that she was greatful for my message and that she was hurt that something so serious to her could do that.
I am now left feeling that I really want to meet her, as me, as the guy who was messaging her, and genuinely cared for her. However, I am not sure whether asking to meet is the best idea when I have spoken so little to her since the last time.
Do I openly suggest a meet up to have a kick about at the park, or do I talk to her online?
I am so unsure on what options I have, but ultimately I want to now act on our conversations we had over ten years ago.
- to add. I haven’t been wrapped on her since that day; I have had other relationships since, likewise I assume she has also. I just want to give it a go but without pushing to boat too far as it is fairly sensitive.
Any advice will be greatful!