I’ve finished my NC period and talked a bit to my ex. However, it seems that she hasn’t gone out of the hurting period. Last night, she texted me these:
“I just want you to know, I don’t know which one is me, but please do understand that I’m not always being me when I’m being cold or harsh to you. I just want to heal…okay? Thank you for putting up with me all of these times…Thank you for loving me so greatly back then. Please let me go and live happily will you…Let’s be friends when we’re both ready for that term. I can’t wait for that…”
I’m not sure what should I do next. Another month of NC?
@vj - How long were you together, did you breakup with her or did she break up with you and what were the reasons? Also, how long ago was the breakup? To me it sounds like she doesn’t want to get back together. And being friends with someone you’re still in love with isn’t a good idea because if and when they get into a relationship with someone else, it will hurt a lot! It sounds like she was sometimes cruel, is looking for forgiveness, and wants time to heal. If that’s the case, you could write a short note and let her know you’ve forgiven her and that you’re not perfect either. Other than something like that, I don’t have any ideas what you might write, not knowing any of the circumstances above.
If you want to be friends, tell her to take as much time as she needs to heal and ask her to get in touch when she’s ready. After that, you would need to be patient and wait until she gets in touch with you.