My boyfriend (40) broke up with me (33) after a really blissful time together. Other than a couple of irritable moments, nothing significant happened to cause this breakup. We were even talking about moving in together - his idea.
Well, about two weeks ago, we had an argument and went to bed without resolving it. The next morning he broke up with me. I left it a couple of days before rocking up at his place. We spent an amazing eve together but when I asked for us to try again, he was very cold and the answer was “no”.
He sent me a text after that and I broke the NC rule and I sent another one the next day, but it has now been 6 days of NC. He hasn’t contacted me again - which is fine as I’m not sure how I would react if he actually does.
My question is: He hasn’t changed his facebook relationship status (and neither have I). I’m worried that if I do, he would see that as me not being interested in reconciling. What do I do? Do I change my status? I also know that he hasn’t told most of his friends about the breakup.
hey,
How long have you been together ? when did you break up? and when did you start NC?
I think you should change the relationship status.he broke up with you so you don’t have to look needy and he doesn’t really have to be sure that you want him back.
Use fb to show that you are having a great time in your life and you are not depressed. it really doesn’t make him move on.he will miss you more.
Do not stalk him on fb or anything like that and make positive changes in your life.he should see the changes in your life later so you can attract him again.
Continue NC and follow the plan it will increase your chances.
You should absolutely remove your status. Don’t change it - that will alert everyone on Facebook. There is an option to just hide it from your profile. Do that. You don’t want him to change his first, you will feel awful. I would suggest also removing him as your friend (so you both can’t see what each other is doing). The less he knows about your life during NC, the better. Leave it up to his imagination.
That said, continue NC. Stay strong. If this was over a silly argument, he absolutely will miss you once he isn’t so attached to his anger. NC gives you both the time and space to think clearly. Make him miss you! And good luck!
I absolutely agree with what notevensure said about changing your relationship status privacy to only me. but i don’t suggest you to unfriend him on fb.you can really use your fb to make him miss you more and show him that you are happy,beautiful and doing great in your life.
You should only unfriend him if you can’t stop yourself from checking his profile and stalking him.
I remember i didn’t even check my fb’s wall page ( i didn’t want to see even one photo of him ) when i was on NC.i used to open my profile,upload some photos and that was it.
So, I went ahead and changed my status. Although it doesn’t show on my profile anymore, I also removed the fact that the two of us were in a relationship. Although my heart is breaking, I know that this is for the best.
Hi Jane,
I would suggest turning off the get notifications options for his page if you are still planning on using Facebook. Maybe from any mutual friends that may post pics with him as well? It’s really helped me not to pay attention to what he’s doing.
