my ex and i broke up three days ago. i was hoping to start no contact right away, but my ex keeps reaching out about more and more things he left at my place and letting me know which of my own stuff is at his. i’ve been doing alright (alright is certainly a relative term) up until now, but all of the contact and all of the finality surrounding finalizing logistics is making me feel really sad. i’m not going to be petty and hold on to his stuff just to have something to discuss with him… but thinking there’s nothing left we need to talk about is kind of scary. this is starting to make me feel like this is really over and makes the idea of nc much more daunting. has anyone else struggled with this?
i’m going through the exact same thing right now. so I feel your exact pain
As the break up is fresh, this kind of behaviour of ex is normal. Give him all his stuff back and take yours from him. Start NC from that moment and you have a plus point here. You wont have to ignore him at all. If he texts you, you k ow he is missing you because he has nothing to do with you now. You wont have to break NC just because you want somthing yours from him and vice versa. You would be able to do NC better.
Good luck
I know exactly what you mean
I didn’t pick up my things from my ex until a few weeks after we broke up, it just seemed like once once my things were gone from his house it was truely over for good
It wasn’t as horrible as I thought. I made sure I looked pretty, put a smile on my face and made it quick
Its not easy, best to get it over with. No matter how the breakup went or how he acts, it won’t be easy for him either.
Think of it as the start of your no contact period. Or the ending of of your old relationship while you both refresh before you start a fresh new one after no contact finishes