Ex with same interests...

My Ex broke up with me two weeks ago. I did everything wrong: I called texted and pleaded for her to reconsider her break-up. We’ve been together for 5 years, have simular interests, morals and values. She wants us to be friends is is scared that she may lose me forever but she needs time and space to work on herself and to see if an attraction is possible in the future.

So here’s the problem after: 3 days of NC she sends me a text asking me if Im going to a gig after she saw that I pushed “going” on the facebook event as she doesn’t want to “intrude”. I tell her that right now I’m trying to go out as much as possible and that I hope that it was OK that I was attending this gig.

She responds with “Ok” and then asks if I can message her if I plan to skip the gig. Then she asks how I’m doing. ARRRRGH!

I respond with the following:
Things are up and down but I’m trying to keep things focused on everything that’s been happening and the best way to deal with it all. I’m letting myself grieve and not supress any feelings. I apologize for how I reacted with all the Calling and sms’s a few weeks ago. I understand my role in all this. Thanks for asking. Take care.

“Thankfully” she hasn’t replied. Or? Now I’m wondering how I came off to her. I’ll add a few more days to NC for sure.

But now I’m wondering how we should do when we might possibly be at the same events? Is it good that we contact each other to give a heads up?

Go and enjoy the event. If you see her, just be cordial.