This is a long one but im going to cut it down to last 2-3 weeks.
So after being involved for a year and then dating for another, my ex and I broke up a month ago.
2 weeks later we have an argument in which she totally goes off on me, claiming that I used the sudden passing of a mutual friends father to worm my way into her life. I wanted to speak in person but she refused to see me. The following week, her dad got rushed to hospital (he’d been fighting cancer for the past couple months) and I went there immediately. I spent the whole day with her and her family and she was very cold with me. Only me. This guy who she’d been getting close to recently was there and when he arrived. Things went from bad to worse. I was in a state of shock the entire day having not dealt with our fight and also seeing her and her dad for the first time since the break up. Seeing her dad like that when my uncle also passed away due to cancer 2 years prior and also, my other ex’s grandfather back in the day. All of that, plus this guy and her was too much for my system and it showed. That night she spoke to me about my behaviour saying it was inappropriate etc. But I didn’t make a scene or anything. I did catch myself staring at him a few times but i didn’t mean to. Fast forward, 2 days later her dad passed away and I was at the funeral. Things were mostly fine… we had a couple conversations and she’s insisted that this guy and her are not hooking up or anything - that he’s just being a good friend but everyone can see the vibe between them, even if that is true. Anyway, today is 3 days after the funeral and she’s asked to get her stuff back because she wants closure on this chapter of her life. I told her she can come to my house on Friday and she asked if there was any particular reason why. I said that these were her things, this was her process and her closure and that it would be better for her if she came to get them. She responded by saying that I took those things (not all of them) and that if I want to be an ass about it then fine. Then she said, sarcastically, that she loves how I continue to think that i know what’s best for her. I haven’t replied to that and I don’t want to. It was unnecessary and just plain infuriating. But I love her dearly and I still hope that in the future we can reconcile and be together. How do I play Friday’s meeting to ensure the best possible outcome?