Ex texted me on my birthday

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So I’ve been following the no contact rule and it’ll be over in about 5 days. Thing is that my ex texted me on my birthday wishing me a happy birthday. Short, simple, standard text. I don’t know if I should reply with a short answer like “thanks” or if I should continue no contact for a few more days and ignore her text.

She broke up with me and as silly as it sounds, I don’t want bad blood between us by me not at least responding to her. However, I know if I break NC and respond, things won’t change for us. I’m not sure what to do!!! I just don’t want to come off as rude even though I know I don’t owe her anything.

Our break up was very odd. We’d been dating for about 2 years, living together and she said that we should break up. Thankfully we only had about 3 months left on the lease but those 3 months were hard. My emotions went through a range and her behavior was odd too. Sometimes she’d act like we were still in a relationship, blowing kisses at me, touching me, etc. Twice we fell asleep together and once we had sex. Nothing changed between us still and over the summer she would ask me if I wanted to kiss her. I don’t know why she did this, but finally we’ve had some REAL time away from each other and I initiated NC. I’m now nearing the end of my NC and I’m still not sure if I want to contact her. Thinking of her or running into her gives me anxiety.

Any help would be appreciated, and I’d love to hear other people’s stories too.

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A short “thanks” is ok and continue NC. Don’t have sex with her anymore ! Stay cool,let get back together be her idea.

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I dont think you should reply her. Complete your NC and then send a normal text of letter anything. Because the main purpose of NC is to work on yourself and completely ignore our ex even if he tried to reach for you.
I broke NC like this only and I am regretting it now.

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Thanks for the advice! I didn’t respond to her because I didn’t want to break NC.

But now I’m faced with another dilemma. NC for me was done yesterday but I don’t know how to text my ex (not going to write a letter to her). I’m not sure if I should thank her for wishing me a happy birthday and say something else, or if I should just forget about the happy birthday and start up a conversation.

Any help would be appreciated!

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how long ago was the birthday text from? if its old then forget about it and start a new convo with her. remain calm and stay strong, you can do this. :slight_smile: do you mind giving me your opinion on my post? thanks :slight_smile:

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My birthday was on Friday so 6 days ago. Not sure if I should say something like:

“Hey! Just saw this, thanks for the birthday wishes, hope you’re doing well.” And then something else as well.

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you should remain no contact. good luck. :slight_smile: