You’re right. If I went to the meeting I would want it to be really chill. Honestly, I wouldnt wanna talk about the realtionship, id just wanna hangout and see if we can be civil. Is that a good plan? I dont think hes re thinking things yet, its only been a week since the bad blow out and 3 since the BU. I think he just doesnt want us to end on bad terms. And maybe he just doesnt want me to hate him. He said he hates it that I think so poorly of him.
I dot think I’m gonna go. I’m 90% sure hes still sleeping with this other girl. So it’ll just be harder on me because I know that he doesn’t want me anymore. Ill just let him be, and maybe in July if I’m still around he can come to me if he wants.
Does this sound okay to send to him?
“I think I am gong to have to cancel thursday. I do not believe it is in my best interest if I see you while, I assume you are still having relations with another women. Thats is out of respect for myself. I have worked very hard on myself the past week and I believe meeting wouldnt be wise. Best of luck in your future”
Or should I just say like, im busy thursday and leave it at that?
My personal take on this is to keep your text/email fun, very short and a little enigmatic. Let him wonder… At times, “less is more” and I would say this applies here.
Now that you have given more info, it gets trickier to actually know what’s going on. Asssuming he is still seeing the other girl, then he may have initiated this meeting because he feels bad about the breakup and wants to keep any further interaction between you two “decent” …Maybe he is trying to seek closure to feel better about himself. Well, call me a mean b*tch but I would not grant him this privilege, not yet at least. I would do it when I feel great about myself :)) But again, it is your call and I am sure you will do eventually what you think it works best for you.
So, do you think I should jut text him “hey, I think im gonna have to cancel Thursday” and leave it at that?
Im afraid hes going to just be like “ok”
Or what do I say if hes like 'why?"
I would write something like this - here is an example…
"Hey, X - wazzup? Cant make it on Thursday, sorry. Got a full plate before leaving town. Raincheck for July? "
if he says yes to July - reply with a positive tone:
“Lovely, looking forward to it”
and leave it at that.
I would wait until Wednesday evening to send this out - because you never know, you may get second thoughts about it and want to show up…Keep your options open for now…
I like the idea of something like that. And yeah,I wasnt planning on sending it until wednesday… because I could change my mind so easily. Thanks for the advice.
you’re welcome - keep posting 
maybe you should go and act hard to get?
kiok, youre a guy right? So whats your take on why he would want to see me? To have power over the situation? Maybe because he doesnt want to end on bad terms. Part of me really wants to go and just have fun. But another part of me is telling me no because he has caused so much hurt already.
yeah Im a guy…girls please boys arent so smart to plan something like thath to have power over the situation… He just want to see you to know if he still got any chance with you. If I was in your situaction I would go there and show him my best edition and act hard to get.
Thats true too. He may just simply wanna see me. Im still deciding. So ill let you guys know when the day comes. Thanks so much for all the help guys!
keep updating news 
np you also helped me alot
GUYS!
I ran into him on campus today and it was great! I used to see him on tuesdays in passing, but havent in the past couple of weeks. He usually just smiles and walks by. Today he stoped and asked me how I was and we talked for a little bit. He was so smiley and I made him laugh. Makes me wanna see him again on Thursday.
oh that are great news, Im so happy for you…maybe NC worked for you two
I think it way to early, but hopefully we get o good terms again and when he moves close to me in July we can start again
yeah its early to tell but you two are on good way
Sounds pretty positive to me. Did you guys talk about meeting on Thursday? How did he react?
We didn’t talk about Thursday because I had to cut him off because my bus pulled up… I was like “ohh theres my busI got to go, bye!” and he was like “see ya later” So I think thats a good sign.
fingers x on Thursday then. Keep us posted