My ex contacted me asking me if he could come to the house and get some of his stuff. I said the day after would be better. I already told him prior I would like to be there just to make sure everything is good.
I did ask he not bring his new gF. We had a little tiff about how else he would be able to get his stuff (he doesn’t have a car, and for some reason she won’t let him hers?) Out of respect for me I don’t want her up here, and to me he lost that right when I found a thong in our room which he swears he hasn’t had sex with her in our house (so of that’s true which I do believe, she came up here on her own and put it there which is childish).
I said essentially that I am just trying to feel comfortable in my own home aftEr this drama. And to shut the situation down, I asked if he will be coming up on the day I said. He said yes and to have a good night.
People I’ve spoken with said I should have a witness when he grabs his stuff, and while I think it would be easier to keep myself less emotional, I feel like he would argue then, that I am putting him in an uncomfortable position.
Ultimately, I want to be with him, but I know we need to be separated completely before he can start to miss me… I am not going to just, bend over backwards for him to get his stuff, I am willing to work with him. I’m not going to be sad and emotional around him, I want to appear unbothered and confident which is what they say we should do. I am not thinking us back together right away more like months down the road…
So should I have a person as a witness?
I also, want to give back the thong that she left here because I obviously don’t want it and I would like him to think how childish she iS. For doing that just to hurt me. Should I? I would probably say something like I’m sure your girlfriend will want her thong back. Or do you think I shouldn’t?