Does this mean she is trying to friend zone me? She sent me this text today and I don’t know if I should be worried that she is calling me her best friend.
“J*****. I hope you are doing well. I have not found the time and energy to meet up yet. I just want to say that I really pray for both of us to find our self and our values and life plans that God intended for us. I really appreciate you as my best friend and a friend that I know you will be there for me. I truly care about you and even tho I don’t know what the future has for us but I always want you as my best friend and I hope you find happiness in what you do. I have been praying for both of us. Take care and goodnight.”
I sent a text back and trying the positive renforcment from Relationship Rewind and said
“You take care too. I’m glad we’re still friends too. You have a goodnight and like I said take the time you need.”
Was that the wrong thing to say. A little nervous now but glad she sent me something today.
Don’t accept that friendship. Never say. “Im glad we are still friends.” Never agree. This will become a standard for her. This just means one thing. You are too available as a friend now. If she invites you out don’t accept immediately.
Crap I knew it right when I saw “best friend”. I’m freaking out now. I’m doing my best to stay calm. If I shouldn’t say “glad we’re still friends” what should I say. Should I try to hint that I want us to be more than friends again? I can do the not accept immediately but crap. I’m mad at myself now for saying that.
Sorry for the freak out. After getting a night of sleep I’ve calm down now. I know it’s not the end I just need to be careful with what I say and challenge the friendship to go further. I know I’ve made it obvious here that I want more than a friendship and I need to speak that through my actions. I do hope we can go to church together soon so I can do my plans that I had for us for valentines. Your right that I don’t need to be saying I glad we’re friends, I just need to figure out subtle hints on us being a couple again or figure something else out and I know I will figure it out.
Nope you shouldn’t regret. Just be you. Don’t yse the friendship to ge closer. Use love and emotions.
We haven’t met back up yet but she has done this a few times and I’m trying to understand why she might be doing this. She has texted me a couple times at night with a text saying something along the lines “hey how are you doing”? I would not see it at first and about 10 to 15 minutes later I see it and reply back and end the text also asking her how she is doing. After I send the text I get no answer back.
What would be the reason to her doing this? Is she wanting me to say a specific thing? Tonight she did that again but I didn’t notice it till it was late and I know she would be in bed at that time so I didn’t reply and plan to reply tomorrow afternoon. This seems weird and I don’t get it.
Forgot to mention the last time she did this. I waited about an half hour after my response and sent her a “im heading to bed. Hope we can talk again soon.” Almost immediately she texted me back with a goodnight text. Just seems odd and kind of annoying me.
Well she texted me back this morning basically saying that she thought I had something better in life to do than talk to her. I texted back saying that wasn’t true and it was an accident and I saw it real late. Her next texts she sounded insecure like she thought I hated her and changed my mind on wanting to talk to her. I told her I never hated her and want to talk but knew some more time was needed for healing and I didn’t want to pressure or rush her. She texted back saying she was tired of taking time. I told her I was going to be out of town this weekend but will be back on Sunday and asked if she wanted to get dinner and talk because it felt like we were drifting apart. She kind of agreed and said she will be back on Sunday too and will text me later. I sent one last text saying I was glad she wanted to talk and I want to talk about these insecurities she’s have and ended with saying I also hope she has a good day and talk to you on Sunday.
A little shocked up from this exchange but overall I felt like I said the right things and hope this talk goes good.