recently I (22M) was broken up with by 23F. i took time of a month (partial NC, i reached out 1 other time to ask for an honest conversation ) to reflect on my mistakes and reached out to my ex to share what I learned and to apologise. she said she appreciated the reflection but told me she doesnt feel the same and thinks its best if i moved on
i then asked if she would prefer space or is open to stay in touch as friends
im conflicted, part of me wants to reconnect one day. at the same time i dont want to push or disrespect her boundaries
based on the 5 step plan, they say to try restarting communication after reaching out but i feel like i should take another period of NC because she seems very set in her decision?
what should i do?
Dear Alaac,
how are you? I mean how are you inside? You seems unsure to me. So I guess it’s not the worst idea to take time for yourself again. Take her boundaries for serious as well as yours. remember your life without her- what did you do ? Did you met friends, had sparetime activities, like swimming, biking ect.? Concentrate on things which made you happy. I know it’s hard to do and easy to write when you feel in quit moments heartache is overwhelming you.. It’s the same with me… I really don’t like the NC-time now, and in some moments I feel like to call him, just to feel him next to me…. in the end it doesn’t make any sense and it’s a kind of neediness. I didn’t forget my life without him… and it was working as well… so try to remember your life before and the moments where you didn’t know her and you were happy anyway. So become independent again. Best regards, Bb
hi! me again. I have been taking time for myself. I still miss her and always think about what we could have been. Part of me still wants to try getting back with her but at times im thinking maybe ive taken too long or its not right anymore.
i havent been as obssessed or depressed about it but i recently did wish her happy birthday which wasnt even seen but didnt affect me as much as i expected.
Just living my life from here on, might reach out might not
Hi,
I am so happy to hear of your progress. I am in a similar boat. I might reach out in a month or two. But I am not obsessed or depressed over my ex.
It felt so bleak just a month ago but things are sooo much better right now.