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My ex has been contacting me every day for the past few days. I told her that I need some time and space.
However, after just 24hrs, she sent me a voice mail stating she had a strong urge to talk to me. And said she loves me. She ended up texting me the day after that and she called. I answered the call and I kept the conversation light and short. The day after that she called but I didn’t answer. I didn’t respond to her texts either. Then she sent another voice mail and said she is extremely sorry for how she hurt me and that she understands things now that she didn’t before. She also said she wants to maintain our strong bond. I Didn’t respond for another 3 hrs. I didn’t mention the voice mail, but after two texts, she asked, “Did you get my voice mail?!” I said yes and I appreciated it. Last night, I called her. She wanted me to stay on the phone but didn’t come right out and say it. Her usual indirect way of communicating.
I just said she should get some good sleep. She told me she loved me but I wasnt sure if I should say it so I didn’t. After we hung up, I texted her to tell her that she should just be direct with what she wants because otherwise I don’t have a clue. (My attempt to show I am willing to give her what she needs without seeming clingy or like a doormat).
This morning…she texted me first again. As usual, I keep it light and say nothing about the breakup and I don’t inquire about her dating life. False friendship type stuff.
I guess what I am confused about is if I should go for NC or soft NC or go into false friendship… ??
I don’t initiate contact, I feel like she misses me even though we communicate, and the conversations we have been having aren’t hostile but rather funny and enjoyable. I have no plans to jump right back in because I really want to work on myself. plus, she’s been up and down a lot before because of her confused emotions, so I don’t want to get built up and then torn down again.
Any advice? Am I missing something? Am I a hopeful idiot?