Dear all , I’m new here and English isn’t my native language .
Anyway , my boyfriend and i were together for almost 4 years . But , at the end he broke up with him telling me he doesn’t love me anymore and that he was preparing to break up with me for the past 6 months but did not had the guts to do it earlier. Hence , after he broke up with me it felt very painful and couldn’t be able to reply immediately so i contacted him after 3 weeks and he didn’t want to see me , then I contacted him another time after a month and he still didn’t want to discuss things live he prefered over a phone call , i accepted but I didnt made the call following a friends advice . After a week i send a message for him that i miss him , and I know that was wrong but he simply blocked me after saying some nasty words to me . And his friend told me to stop contacting cause he doesn’t want u in his life ,So I stoped. But my love for him did not , but i moved on and worked on myself and travelled alot and then one day after 3 months i bumped into him at the beach. We talked normally, we even agreed to see each on a coffee but he never set a date cause he said he will call me when he is free,but he simply ignored that. So , i reach out to him after 2 weeks sounding very needy and applogizing to him if i hurt him in anyway that made him to repel from me in that way , he simply laughed and told me it too soon to sit for a coffee and told me im sorry if ur still hurting. It Will pass then he blocked me again .here , i stopped everything and decided to stop trying to reach him out . But now after almost 9 months of no contact my love for him did not end. So i decided to try one more thing and that the elephant in the room letter and i send it yesterday. But till now he did not respond.and I dont know why it hurt alot . Is this normal even after a year? Anyway I started therapy last week.but I wanna ask if the elephant in the room letter will it help or I should simply let go cause im not knowing how .
Ps : we loved each other alot and never cheated but at the end we fought alot and he was very controlling .
For your own sake, it’s best to move on. A guy who is controlling doesn’t make a good boyfriend or friend.
But , i tried but everything reminds me of him . I tried meditation and focused on the present moment but at the end of the day he is not leaving my mind. It’s hard to move one when the love of ur life rejects you and refuses to disscuss anything or have a one on one talk .
Btw he replied and said im glad u moved on and take care of yourself
It’s not hard to move on when you realize that you’re not the love of his life! Face up to the fact that he doesn’t want you… You’re having a hard time because it’s difficult to be rejected, that’s all.