My ex broke up with me today. He’s deployed right now, has been for about a month, and won’t get back until at least December. He’s been pretty distant lately, but did apologize for it.
Should I do no contact, even though he’s overseas? We were supposed to get married when he gets back and move across the world together because he got stationed in another country.
He does this kind of stuff to me a lot, though. We’ve been talking on and off for about a year, and whenever I got close, he broke it off and ignored me. The moment I stopped messaging him, he’d come back–almost like he’s testing me.
He’s been cheated on by ever gf he’s ever had, most while deploys, so he’s very hesitant to get close. I broke that barrier and he wanted me to marry him. He started acting weird when he find out he got deployed, wouldn’t see me the weekend before he left because he said it was too hard, but the first few weeks of the deployment, he communicated way more then he ever has with me.
That all started to change about a week ago, and then he broke up with me today. I know he’s going to come back to me because it always happens. I ignored him once by accident, the first time he contacted me after a few weeks, and he got upset.
Do you think I should still do the no contact, even though he’s deployed? I know he still wants to be with me, but I don’t know how long it’ll take before he messages me. It’s different because he’s deployed. He’s not in the right mindset.
I am thinking about doing the I contact, regardless, though, because I want to be with him and marry this man, but I can’t keep having him go back in forth when things get tough. Either he’s with me or he’s not. I can’t do this anymore. I was in an eight year relationship over a year and a half ago, and I can’t waste any more time (I’m 25, the guy deployed is 27).
The only way we communicate is through snapchat. He didn’t respond to my message, but he looked at my story. He’s the type of person who would block me if he if he didn’t want anything to do with me, but he has to know what I am doing.
Should I remove him as a friend on snapchat during no contact, so he can’t see what I’m doing? It should I keep him as a friend, so he can see that I’m not sitting around, sulking?
Only reason I’m hesitant about the no contact is because he’s deployed. I know it’ll work, though, but I’m not sure when he’ll message me. He was already being distant. Should I do no contact once he messages me again? And I think deleting him as a friend on snap will drive him crazy. He can still message me if he wants to.
I want him back and want him to stay for good. I did tell him I’m not going to sleep or date anyone else. Not sure if that’s good or not.
Any advice would be helpful!
Thank You!
I know that he’s going to