Hello Ex back community,
I’m new here and hoping to get some good advice and support.
My ex and me live long distance. We were together for 9 months and we were engaged.
He has sleeping issues and depression which both seemed to get worse.
We used to skype with each other every day but this slowed down - most of the time because of his health issues, him being too tired or wanting to spend time with family.
In October he broke up with me for the first time after we had a little fight - I told him I wish we could with this out and went straight into no contact. After 3 weeks he came back, apologised to me.
But we continued spending less and less time with each other, because of his sleeping issues and I told him I’m not happy anymore because we have nothing but a texting relationship. I was lucky if I got to see him once a week for like 20 minutes. Even after he promised it would get better, I didn’t get to see him for 2 full weeks and sometimes we fought about little things and he started ignoring me for days.
I broke up with him after he started ignoring me although we had a Skype date set up… when he apologised after 2 weeks, I took him back though, cause the apology seemed to come from his heart.
We set up 3 skype dates a week - he said he only needed a schedule he could stick to. But he didn’t even keep this promise for a week, he has always been too tired or sick… - I know that these were partly lies.
Two weeks ago I’ve been looking forward for our skype call - when I called him he said the call woke him up and that he has a bad headache and asked to call me tomorrow.
I asked him if he could still call me for 5 minutes - and when he ignored my question, I got very very pushy and texted him annoyingly much and called him quite a few times, telling him he was handling the situation in a terrible way, he could just answer my question…
He told me that I was being terrible and too much.
That was the last thing I heard from him. I kept texting him over the next 6 days, suggested times to catch up on our skype call… wishes him a happy 9 month anniversary… but instead of replying, he didn’t say a word and deleted our photos from social media…
I texted him that he should get checked for dementia, forgetting all his promises and even that he is engaged… That he should give his valentine’s presents to his family, that he’ll get some next year if he treats me better… still no reaction… (there are flowers coming on Sunday that I can’t stop anymore)
Then I went into no contact… For 5 days… Until he deleted me off social media, just EVERYWHERE…
I sat down and wrote him a letter, apologising for my part in our disagreement, admitting that I’ve been too pushy, explained that it was because of all the things that happened before… I said he could take space if that’s what he needed and can get in touch when he’s ready.
So, the ball is in his court now.
Do you think I still have a chance for him to come back, or have I destroyed my chances by reaching out so much? I never thought he would break up, for me asking a question… I know I got too upset when he didn’t reply, but I think that’s understandable in some way because he promised to never ignore me again and he still did…
I just want to know, is there still hope for us?
It’s terrible being ghosted
Thank you