Hello… I’m having trouble figuring it what is the best way to go about this break up and reconciliation thing. Here’s the story…
I used to live in another country and we had about a year long relationship while I was there. We always had the best time together doing whatever, so it was really great except when we had a few nagging issues that would pop up regularly. We each had problems with each other’s exes that were still very present in our lives. I left to travel and came back hoping we would let all of it go but we still hadn’t. What I’ve figured out is that we had communication issues, not really issues about the exes themselves, but communication issues. So we never really talked about the real issue of communication, just about what was happening with the exes and each other.
When I got back, the relationship went bad and I broke up with her and I went back to my home country. I thought it was the right thing for us to move on but it was the worst mistake I’ve ever made. We had some conversations straight away that got pretty heated about the things that were going on and how it made us feel. Neither of us would ever say anything bad about the other like I hate you or you’re a bad person or anything like that. So we finally talked through the real issues but were still hurt from everything and wonder if it’s just too late. Now it’s been a month and a half. I made some break up mistakes straight away and have now been on no contact for almost 2 weeks but not feeling great about things. I know it will take longer than this and I’m prepared for that but I’m worried that with our distance, if it doesn’t happen soon, it won’t happen. Is there a way to go about working things out regardless of the distance?
I replied to your other post before I read this one. But since this is a long distant situation, trying to reconcile will be more difficult. If you do reconcile, one of you will have to move to be close to the other.
Thanks for the reply. Yeah I am hoping to move to where she is, it’s just getting to that place where she wants me to move back is what I’m having trouble with, and trying to make sure I’m following a good plan with the added problem of our distance.
I commented on your posting in the No Contact section. Trying to keep up with the information in 2 sections is confusing, LOL.
I’m new to this website and I’m currently going over a break up with my ex. Here’s the story, we are both in the military and deployed in Europe right now, and we broke up over lack of trust do to me talking to other girls. We were about to be together for a year but then she broke up with me. I tried staying in touch for about 10-12 days after the break up and it just wasn’t the same. We got in an argument, and we decided to not contact each other for a while. So I have started NC. I’m on day 5. And I have my doubts about it and just want advice. We haven’t talked which is good, but I see her a lot cause we are in the same unit. And she is always around hanging out with guys. Specially one who I think is a rebound but they are in the same company. So they see each other every day which if it is a rebound I think would be very unprofessional cause they are legit in the same unit/possibly platoon. Also she has been tweeting about how happy she is, and lately commented that I’m trying to use religion to get her back because after the Break up I have started going to church and plan to get baptized. I think she is trying to provoke me and invade her space again. But I also feel like if I ignore her she will move on cause being the army she has multiple options to get With another guy. Any advice would help.