@shawns Yes I understand and accept that I am lucky in some ways. I just have my doubts over whether she can change. I don’t even really want her to change, I think she kniws deep down where she has been going wrong and I also think that she likes that I will tell her that and reaffirm things for her, rather than let her continue to act in a detrimental way for her own future happiness and that of her daughter. I thought that she respects me for putting that above me just getting my fun (sex/dating) while never really getting to know the real me?
I am so confused that I just question everything though.
@Sparky Respect should be given first to you bro…
Its the basic…
Though I understand that you don’t want her to change…
We guys have that mentality to reaffirm them on their mistakes…
Its in our nature…
I wish you all the best…
Ryan Rivers says in his Relationship Rewind book that we all have a chance.
Problem is that none of us know how big that chance is. Just the same as we didn’t when we were friends with our Ex prior to dating.
I think that my Ex must realise that it is going to be difficult for us to remain just friends. Too much chemistry, too much of a connection. It’s possible someday (as I have done it with a previous Ex GF), but not for some time and certainly not while her current confusing behaviour continues.
If it is just friendship that she wants/needs from me then new clear boundaries need to be defined and that takes time.
I agree. You should set rules if she only wants the two of you to be friends. You guys have everything. Chemistry and connections… All that’s left is time. She should understand you as well.
By the way Sparky, do you think I should go back with my EX as what she is right now?
He didnt contact me in anyway till now…The last time I have called him was on 18th, 7 days ago and it was going to be his birthday after 3 days, I said him happy birthday from now then he said there still 3 days for it but still thank you and I didnt call or messaged him on his b-day…he must be angry a little maybe and was expecting me to call him…maybe this time he finished me for real
I just cant stand this feeling, I dont eat proper cuz I cant…I just want it to go away from me forever and ever if there will be nothing between us in the end
How come he can manage it while still living in the house full with memories that we shared for months if he misses me…no way…hes just fkn moving with his life, found another girl which is quite easy for him and look at me a loser.
I’m going to visit my sis, travelling today then I’m planning to go abroad soonest possible to start a new life
I’m just so very very angry at myself about being that stupid, pure stupid about doing those such things for someone whom used me, did emotional abuse and all and the funny thing is that I still expect something and still fkn having somethings in me somewhere…
@malinda The truth is I do not know what he is thinking…
He might be thinking about you. You really can’t erase the person whom you have love/d right? Think of the things that will make you fell better… Try it for now…
I just cant believe what kind of person I became now, its disgusting…I never been like this before, never taken someone serious before at all…I hate these feelings really and want them go away forever
That’s why we’re here in this website… To help each other out… Be strong @Malinda… There’s a rainbow always after the rain… Don’t give into despair… Try to be happy even just a little. Watch “Psych” or any funny movies…
I’m in a mess right now as well but I’m trying to be happy… You should do that to…
@Malinda Don’t make any rash decisions. Try to take some time out and let your emotions settle down a bit first.
I am angry with my Ex as she is niw trying to take the time off me that I set aside to work on myself and improve my frame of mind and my health. She has contacted me with het problems yet offers me no respect in return. No “How are you?” just launches straight in to her problems and “I need your help please” after 19 days of us not speaking to eachother after yet another disagreement. What makes it worse is that if she.listened to advice that I gave her months ago then she wouldn’t even have this problem that she has just asked for my help with. She was angry at me for saying to her that she always makes a mess of things and expects me to be there to pick up the pieces.
I am sure that your Ex is thinking about you Malinda. How long have you been apart? It’s very early days yet isn’t it?
I broke up with my Ex 5 months ago now. I wonder me and my Ex have both made too many errors already to repair the damage that has been done.
