Ex and I were together for two years nothing was ever inherently wrong with our relationship, both of us just failed to put in the effort it deserved. The breakup was very mutual and peaceful; however, I regretted it instantly i wanted to put in the effort it deserved a little too late. We ended up taking things slowly from
There decided to be friends and we kept it like that for 5 months. During those 5 months we became closer and closer to the point where we were emotionally dating again, we facetimed daily and texted all the time, but she still refused to get back with me saying “maybe one day” “i just dont feel the spark anymore” and stuff like that. She’s doing this while also seeing other guys on the side. She would even come visit me some weekends and we would sleep together cuddle and we had sex once or twice.
Towards the end of the friendship in the last month or two she was reaching out to me as much as i was to her if not more, sometimes she would be having emotional problems and i would help her out and other times it was just to chat. I unfortunately always picked up for her she didn’t for me (usually because she may of been with another guy). She was supposed to come see me for another weekend but i decided that enough was enough, that I couldn’t just accept her friendship because of how i felt about her. When i told her this she was visibly upset but she accepted what i had to say, i told her i needed to give this real space and give her the break up she wanted. Part of me doesn’t know if i made the wrong choice in that moment? If i should have kept staying the course and seen what happened or was she just using me stringing me along to meet her own needs?
Its been 1 month of no contact now. I don’t plan to reach out anytime soon i feel like she has to reach out first anyways. The only form of contact I’ve seen is she hid her insta stories from me and then unhid them when she was in chicago for whatever reason right after i posted a story of me at the beach (I didn’t open the story on my insta i wont give her that validation)… still dont get why she hid them at all since she looks at all my stories but thats not the point, i guess the point here is did i make a mistake not seeing where it would have went as a friend or was cutting it off when she felt like she had all of me again a good move?