My girlfriend broke up with me last month (we had known each other for three years but only been together for a bit over one year). It’s been almost one month since I started the “No Contact”.
Right before she broke up with me, she said that she needed time, didn’t know if she loved me or not anymore and was too tired of all the fighting we had and it was too much. Ultimately, she dropped the bomb and said that she hated me and broke up. Immediately after, she regret saying that she hated me, but she said that she didn’t love me anymore but would like to stay as good friends because she really liked me. The breakup went really really bad and I did some very stupid things, I’m not welcome again to visit her family and I acted really needy by sending a lots of desperate texts, so she said that it’s best to not meet again but she was happy if we could be good friends. She wished me all the best for my future and happiness. I didn’t respond to her last text, but it literally made me feel really shit because it was like saying “goodbye”.
After that, in the start of “No Contact” in the first week after we broke up, I posted a photo on facebook of me and another girl who I went to date because I had told her that I was moving on in the last text I sent her, just like the instructions of “No Contact”. She found out and immediately she started to “like” a lot of pictures on facebook of other big muscle guys photos (vin diesel etc.) to obviously try to get attention and make me jealous(?).
But, I continued to not show that I was affected by her acts at all with the “No Contact”. She slowly got desperate and her behavior got more intensive. However, she did not contact me at all. At week three of “No Contact”, I chose to unfriend her on facebook to really make her know that I was not interested to being her friend. She responded by simply blocking my facebook.
Did I make a huge mistake by unfriending her on facebook or was it a smart choice?
She had made it so that I couldn’t see her facebook page at all anyways, so it was pointless to keep her as a friend from my perspective and I wanted to show her that I have power.
Is this going to increase my chances of getting her back or will she get over me now after I unfriended her on facebook and forget me?
Also, I know that the “No Contact” period is 30 days. But do you recommend a longer time for my case since it was such a bad breakup? Let’s say, 45 days or so?
The thought of her meeting another guy and getting into another relationship is killing me, so I am really scared that if I wait longer, she will find another guy and I will have no chances of show her the “new, improved me”.
Thanks for reading and your advices!