It is day 9 of no contact and i am losing hope hope i want to text him so bad but i know i have to be strong. Iv known my ex since we were 15. I am now 23 he broke up with me about a month and a half ago. He said i loved him more than he loved me and that we are on 2 different pages. He even showed up for my college graduation and literally left saying he couldn’t stay. He asked to be friends and i tried for a week but i was a wreck so i told hom i couldn’t be his friend and he said ok bye and here i am now. Sorry for the long post but i need encouragement and any advice on if i should continue . Thanks
That’s tough Kiya, when my ex broke up with me I found it tough and when I eventually lost hope I had to make the decision to delete her from all social media because I knew I wouldn’t be able to see her updates. The friends thing definitely doesn’t work and you deserve better than that. Keep the chin up and keep yourself busy. Be strong because as hard as it is now you will be fine. Time is a great healer.
Keep fighting through it especially right now kiya92. I know how tought it is and U are definitley at the hardest stage in the No contact idea. No contact is as much about helping you as it is to possibly get your ex back. Try and do anything u can to help take your mind off of everything (easier said then done, i know) and work on yourself. I found that looking at myself and seeing what i would like to change (weight, new interest, appearance) helped me set a goal to occupie my mind and make positive changes in my life. Changes that i also used to make myself feel better and be more confident for when i did come out of N/C and talked to/seen my ex. Just keep fighting and battleing and with each day that passes u will start to feel better and calmer somewhat.
You can go through the articles available in this site. It’ll help lighten up your mind a bit. Also don’t forget to subscribe for Kevin’s email. Very kind and inspiring.
Relax and take care.
Thank you all:) Its day 10 and im trying. My friends dont understand why im sad so i wont force them im glad i have you all. @soupy i got a gym membership today and as soon as i felt the urge to cry i went to the gym. I will take baby steps and focus on me. Also are you still in NC? Lastly his mom called me today and asked me to join her for lunch Saturday ALONE, she never did this when we were together. I told her sure but im wondering if that is a bad idea now considering the break up.
let your self cry, you need to, I think it helps to clear emotions if you can feel them and express them. otherwise they just hang around. seriously, if you need to cry, do it, it will speed up the process and you will feel less hopeless and miserable sooner x
I’ve been crying more than i should not so much after day 7 its more so of getting over the things we use to do together now. Im starting to think he’s not coming back but I know i cant dwell on that… this is horrible
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Focus on yourself, think what made he love you, and what did you do that made him wanted some space.
Find the quality in you that was attractive, get a hold of your self and change for a better person by loving your own self. Man loves woman who is independent, understanding and attractive; not a miserable girl who pout and cry over things that she can’t get. If you love him, relax, focus and get ready to fight.
@onelove you are so right…and im not sure how to sign up for the emails
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