She replied she doesn’t think its a good idea to go for coffee where do I go from here now?
@gingerone It was just general banter really, he’d seen an advert for a film and was telling me about it. And then at the end he just put “I’m really glad you are ok, you seem so happy x” I think it probably makes him feel better that he thinks I am ok, doesn’t feel guilty anymore or something I dunno. I am still going to send my letter anyway.
I think for your situation, she still needs some time, you can’t make her want to have coffee with you, even if it is on a friendly basis. I would leave it a week with NC and try again.
@kd1988 I hope your ok. Remember stay strong. I’ve replied to the other post with what I’m going to do. Thanks for your advice. I hope things are good for u.
DAY 12
Ok guys, I broke NC ON DAY 10 and 11 i lost my phone on sunday, so i called her on Monday to let her know she can reach me at my new number.
we talked on the phone for 11min it seemed like a positive conversation, which lead me to think of her through out Tuesday… so i woke up Wednesday morning i felt the need to let her know i have changed and i know what i did wrong during our relationship.
so i went to her house since i had a few hours before my meeting, i made sure i was looking good, i wore a suit i felt confident, i spelled good…. I know i wasn’t suppose to see her but i kinda followed my heart. lol
I called her when i got to her place she picked up. and we spoke on the phone for about 30mins, i told her all things i know i did wrong, i told her i want to take things slow and i took the blame for the break up. i eventually asked her to let me into the house that i have a letter for her. she did let me in, as soon as i got in she saw how well dressed i was and i gave her a really good hug, i couldn’t help it i missed her lol we held the hug for a while as if we missed each other.
she didn’t really put her hands on me she kinda hesitated, i could feel her hands but she had her head rested on my shoulders. then i pulled away and held her hips well i glanced at her face and kissed her on her chick she didn’t seem to mind. then we both smiled.
So i gave her the letter we talked for a bit i went to her room with her and i noticed she had the flowers i sent her during the breakup with my apology note and a teddy bear i gave her on her table. i was kinda happy she didn’t get rid of it. its obvious she still loves me.
Since she had to go to work i walked her to her car and we left.
What do you guys think should i try to message her every 3-4 days or wait a week or wait for her to message me while continuing NC until next month?
Thanks
@tygatyga how are u?
@Gingerone
Not too good i’m back to NC day 2 i managed to have lunch with her during the weekend. and i forgot the game plan. i guess i thought we would get back together after having lunch. we ended up arguing because i kept trying to convince her to give me a chance. i ended up going to her place to try to apologize for my behaviour that was a bad idea.
She told me she hates me and she didn’t want to ever see me again and i ruined the little chance she was going to give me.
she later calmed down and gave me advice for the future relationships and said yea theres no more chance.
The next day Saturday she texted me to give her stuff to my friend so she can pick it up from him and she doesn’t want to see me. I didn’t respond to the text then at night around 2am she texted saying she doesn’t hate me but i can’t keep doing what I’m doing. I didn’t respond to that text also. then she called on Sunday we talked for a bit i apologized and told her i’ll chill but please don’t completely close the door on the chance i was going to get. the conversation went ok and that the last time we spoke.
Sorry guys i think i was close, but now i will take this as a learning opportunity for when she contacts me again and i’ll be in control this time with my emotions.
Im on day 8 NC n i feel like dying 
@gingerone
Not too good i’m back to NC day 2 i managed to have lunch with her during the weekend. and i forgot the game plan. i guess i thought we would get back together after having lunch. we ended up arguing because i kept trying to convince her to give me a chance. i ended up going to her place to try to apologize for my behaviour that was a bad idea.
She told me she hates me and she didn’t want to ever see me again and i ruined the little chance she was going to give me.
she later calmed down and gave me advice for the future relationships and said yea theres no more chance.
The next day Saturday she texted me to give her stuff to my friend so she can pick it up from him and she doesn’t want to see me. I didn’t respond to the text then at night around 2am she texted saying she doesn’t hate me but i can’t keep doing what I’m doing. I didn’t respond to that text also. then she called on Sunday we talked for a bit i apologized and told her i’ll chill but please don’t completely close the door on the chance i was going to get. the conversation went ok and that the last time we spoke.
Sorry guys i think i was close, but now i will take this as a learning opportunity for when she contacts me again and i’ll be in control this time with my emotions.