Current Situation

Hi guys,
Finding this forum and browsing through it has definitely helped me in not feeling alone with what’s happening in my life right now. I would want to get your inputs and advice regarding my situation.

Me and my girlfriend of six years have broken up officially last night. She told me she was tired and we’ve out grown each other since our relationship has been like a “cycle” for the past few years. We’ve had a rocky past.

It all started last 2017, I was at fault this time since I had broken up with her for no reason. I pursued her for almost 3 months and we got back together. She had forgiven me and we had a happy relationship, I had slowly introduced her to my family and they were already in approval of our relationship.

Everything was going well until last year. It was around mid November when she secretly went out late at night (around 2am) to go out with her male best friend. When I learned of this, I was so angry and let the anger decide for me, she tried to win me back with her efforts but I shut them down. I abusive with her verbally. This went on until January of this year, when I finally decided to forgive and forget what she did.

But this time, she told me she wasn’t sure of trying again anymore. I asked her out one night so I could speak with her regarding our situation but she told me she really did not want to be in a relationship with me anymore. I begged her not to leave but she was a bit firm with her decision. The next day, she messaged me if I wanted to get coffee with her so I did. We still kept in contact and I was at her house almost every night cooking dinner for her.

This continued until quarantine was implemented last March. We were still messaging each other almost everyday in quarantine and I even got to visit her to give her some food (cookies and other things she liked) She was thankful for my efforts. And although I know that we still were not fully okay, I still felt that she was interested in messaging me.

April came and I decided to write her a long message on how much I miss her and how much I want the quarantine to be over so we could spend time together in person. She slowly got colder and colder after this. It got worse and eventually she was not replying to me anymore.

Last night, I asked if I could talk to her just to ask her why she has become so cold to me recently. The conversation quickly led to her saying that she was tired and she thinks that we aren’t going to work out anymore. I responded with trying to convince her that being in quarantine helped me realized all the wrong things I’ve done to her as well as the things I need to change within myself to improve the relationship (like being supportive of her interests, not being jealous or trying to stop her from talking to her guy friends, etc.) but then she just hung up and told me through message that we’ve outgrown each other and its better for us to take our separate ways. She also said we could still be friends but she’s not really ready to give it a try again. I responded to this by saying that I will give her time and that I will still be here for her. Planning to purchase the EBP Advanced System so it could help me heal and get through the pain and obsession.

Looking forward to your responses. Thanks!