Oh sorry for posting again lol, in case out are gone after the two weeks how should I reestablish contact? It seems weird to be like “this made me think of you” so? What should I say?
Don’t think about how to reestablish contact now. You will have plenty of time to think about it. The main thing is to never get back into your needy patterns.
Okay lol 
She responded to the text I sent with “Mmkay”
(I’m talking about the extra I told you about before, the one saying I can’t talk.)
Lol so annoying mmkay whatever, at least she replied
Why would she write mmkay tho… like the fck?
It’s so hard to not think of her moving on or forgetting about me ugh…
She won’t forget you! Like I said before, if she has it in her mind to move on, there’s nothing you can do or say to change her mind, so please stop thinking about it. The reply was her way of agreeing with no contact… nothing more or less. So now the thing for you to do is to keep yourself busy and stop obsessing.
Ugh… memories are flooding back from last halloween. We spent it together and had so much fun, everything is reminding me of her…
Wtf… whenever I start typing a message I get a notification that you replied lol
Okay so… I’m staying home from college today because I’m kinda drunk & tired lol
I thought about my ex-girlfriend a lot yesterday, I was told by my cousin to “move on” lol, she’s right… I’m not currently ready to move on.
If I lose all hope and move on it seems like it’s really over… I mean it’s over now but… anyways you guys know what I mean. One of her best friends is a photographer and he posted one of his pictures of her on instagram, this made me sad. He has a gf and is happy with her but I’m still jealous… he’s got nothing on me looks wise (her words not mine) he just has the ability to make her laugh because they have the same sense of humor. I can make my ex laugh it’s just… not as often & hard you know? Whatever I’ve been learning not to take these things personally and it’s been helping.
For the most part I had fun yesterday, besides the couple of “dips” when I thought of my ex it was good. I spent Halloween watching scary movies and going for walks with my BEAUTIFUL cousin, I call her my cousin but we are just good family friends (I know what you are thinking… no I don’t like her like that, we are like family!) Anyways we went to Tim’s to get hotchocolate late at night, she’s wearing a frog costume, she threw a cute face on aND posed for a picture, I put it on instagram and titled it “Hoppy Halloween” genius! That may get the ex kinda wondering what im doing… maybe lol
Anyways after getting drunk at around 3:00am I was told I should delete apps like Instagram, Facebook and other things because I can’t control myself I will stalk my ex. I deleted them, I will not re-download them until the NCP is over, I may snap a photo and post it then re-delete the app but that’s it
I don’t know what I’m asking for advice on at this point… I’m looking for more “support” am I making a wise decision? After knowing all this about my relationship do I have a good chance? I don’t know… tell me the truth please lol
Thanks guys, you are very helpful and help me get through the day!
thinks to self “it’s only been 3.5 weeks…”
i do think it’s good to stay off of social media, especially if you frequent your ex’s account.
stay busy and keep hanging out with your friends. you’ve got this!
Thanks
@JohnCrane, Hey Grayson:) You’re doing fine so far and keep up the no contact even though it’s difficult. You have to stick to your word about it! I think you have a great chance only IF you change your needy behavior. Staying off social media will keep you from being even more sad and wondering what things mean.
Yea I have completely agreed to stay off now. After I deleted it I went off to look at a message my friend sent me, I then saw a picture she posted… she was in a cute black dress, it was like an “old time dress” I think anyways. The caption was “tell me 'bout:it stud”. I looked into the comments and someone commented “SANDY ?” then another person commented “Maddie + Sandy = Mandy! I love it!
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I don’t know if she’s into someone named sandy or…
She’s playing a character named sandy, that’s why she’s dressed like that, and wrote a weird caption and someone said it = Mandy.
I’m so confused and I’m freaking out! I’m deleting instagram… help me plz…
She is in a drama class and she could be doing a short play playing a character named sandy… because she was dressed different and in a weird pose in the picture… like she had one shoulder showing and she was making a face like “I wanna fuck you” im in class right now and I’m so fucking worried lol my mind is going crazy over basically nothing…
Stop looking at social media! See what I mean by stuff making you wonder? It’s making you go crazy. You’re putting every detail under a microscope and it’s ridiculous. Get a hold of yourself! Stay no contact and get busy doing something. You have to stop obsessing! How are you ever going to change your neediness? Stop whining and focus on school work ect & etc… And calm down too, lol.
Just realized that’s a grease quote… she’s playing sandy in grease lol
i literally overanalyzed everything that was posted on social… every like, every comment. it made me sick to my stomach. and one day i woke up and told myself that i can control this situation. i can control not seeing my ex’s fb page. and i blocked him. i honestly feel much healthier and you will, too. i promise. just try - give social media a rest for 5 days and see how you feel.
I understand and it will be good for me.
It’s becoming obsession rather than attraction/love. I need to slow down because I can feel my emotions going crazy. Some of my family battles depression and I feel like I’m going down the road of mental illness.
I am unable to control my thoughts and emotions and my mom said it’s becoming unhealthy. I got overly attached… to the point where I was not living for myself anymore, I still feel like I’m living to make others happy… I can’t stop these emotions, I must learn to stay calm and live for myself again before I do something that I can’t take back.
Because of this I feel like it is appropriate to wait before contacting my ex I need time to gather my bearings.
Thanks,
Grayson (my real name)
i think a breakup can trigger obsessive thoughts. it’s easy to start overthinking and overanalyzing, so you are not alone in your thoughts. i went through that phase where i was stuck in my head and some days i’m still like that. it just means you are able to care about someone - which is a good thing!
but at some point, for your own health, taking a step back and not constantly worrying about what she is doing, who she is talking to, etc will really help you. you can only control how you act and respond, not what she does. remember that. and learn to take one day, or one hour at a time.
you’re going to be okay