I apologize if I came off harsh, but it’s the truth. NC and give it time. You’ll have your ups, your downs, but it has to be done. Everyone here wants an immediate fix to their situation, but the sad reality is that it’s gonna take time. Could be months, could be years, but if you truly love her, and she loves you, then it’ll be worth the wait once you’re both in better positions. Use the pain and frustration of the situation to fuel yourself to be better in your personal life. That’s what I did.
For me it’s been about a month since my ex broke up with me. Now when I look back at how I was the first few days I feel a bit embarrassed with myself.
No worries, sometimes harsh is what you need. Love will make you do crazy things, that lead to feeling embarrassed lol. I guess Im also stuck with the conditioning that “anything you love is worth fighting for”. Im so used to having it pounded in my head that you have to prove it to her by going leaps and bounds with the “aint too proud to beg” mentality. Yet luckily, I havent gotten that far. Seems like NC is the way to go, Im just scared of “out of sight out of mind”. But I guess if its meant to be and I did my job as trying to be the best man she ever had, then it will be impossible for me to ever fully be “out of mind”
by play it cool and play it short, you mean after the phone call, erase all communication all over again? Im sorry if I keep asking questions that seem like theyve obviously been answered, Im just trying to be prepared for any and all possible scenarios so I can handle this perfectly
You are making the right decision.i promise you will feel really better soon.just focus on yourself and try to be happy.avoid negative thoughts and get yourself busy.i never asked my ex to get back with me but i was almost dying during the first days of NC ,i really loved him but the first two weeks was the most painful time of NC.you will feel better soon.
Yes, I had the same thought. “She doesn’t think I really love her… so I’ll prove it to her!” And that’s when I caved in and pleaded with her to meet me in person and reconsider. It didn’t really go well, though I do think it made her feel really sad and confused.
It’s what we’re all kind of conditioned to believe though isn’t it? Seems like every movie with a romance is a man losing his love then ending up fighting for her and winning her back to live happily ever after. Reality is different though.
I’m over it,i realized that i don’t want him back and its not because i don’t love him but we really can’t have a good future together.he has some serious family issues and financial issues.
I guess the next step is to start NC, put all of her things that remind me of her away until whenever the final result comes about, and avoid her anniversary gifts that should be in the mail anyday now
